Loners

[nailit]

Do you know anyone that might be considered a loner...someone that keeps themselves to themselves?
Have read a few cases recently in my local press that has described the circumstances of recently deceased people as having been loners. One such case involved a man that was found hung in a local forest. Neighbours described him as friendly but a loner who kept himself to himself.
I've often thought that certain occupations (ie: long distance lorry drivers) lend themselves to the kind of person that is comfortable with been on their own but is there a difference with been comfortable on your own and loneliness?

[nailit]

My mum is a case in point, loves her solitude...time for reading and watching tv...but I find it hellish.

[B00]

I prefer to be on my own, always have.

[Daffy6543]

Me.
I rarely leave my house, the only people I see day to day are my fiancé and our son. Occasionally my daughters visit with their kids. I don't have a single friend and am not that keen on having one :)
I spend my days on the PC, knitting or crocheting, I also read a lot.

[Psybbo]

I must admit I love time on my own especially as everybody I know won't let me have it. Yes there is a difference and I probably would feel lonely if I was left totally on my own.

[nailit]

Boo, but you like watching a bit of rumpy pumpy" with Mr Boo. You told me so on another thread. So you are not on your own.
Daffy, uv got your fiance, son, daughter and grand kids, thats not a loners life.

[DTCwordfan]

I love my own time too - no problem in escaping here, going off to a nice Inn for two or three nights, good food, wine, maybe a whisky or three and whatever and if I don't meet anybody, that's alright. Wanting to do that soonest when I get a cheque that I am owed!

[nailit]

pysybo, I once had a life where I would have given anything to have had a life on my own....regret it now. (that ive got it)

[jim360]

I've been relatively unsocial, or even antisocial, for much of my teenage/ early adult years. Getting better lately. The worst feeling was being alone in a crowded room, that's very unpleasant. That said, I do spend a lot of time on my own still, but mostly that's by choice.

[nailit]

jim, been lonely in a crowded room...been there mate. Horrible. Been in a family that got no understanding of my state of mind at a particular time, horrible as well.

[DTCwordfan]

//comfortable with been on their own but is there a difference with been comfortable on your own and loneliness?//

Yes, the former is looking in and saying, 'I'm okay being in my own company, even in unfamiliar surroundings' and perhaps going out to meet new folk, the latter is that you yearn company.

[Psybbo]

Sometimes it's a bit like on here, in a crowded room but feeling that I have nothing to contribute to any thread.

[Psybbo]

Jordy, mostly you are lovely

[Baldric]

If company is there I enjoy it, if not I am quite self-sufficient and happy to be one my own. My OH goes off for Holidays, New York and Toronto were the last two, I stay home, I might put the Dogs in Kennels for a week if she's gone for two weeks, just so I can do whatever I want, it works!

[jennyjoan]

Well my brother who is still in hospital - heard a story from his girlfriend recently.

Some 3 years ago he was in hospital getting heart surgery and told girlfriend and 4 sons he wanted no visitors. Girlfriend didn't believe it and went to hospital only to be told by staff oh Mr So and So strictly wants no visitors. Girlfriend went home - naturally. A week later she received a phone call and he was yelling - get up here and get everybody up here too as I don't know what day it is and everybody is getting visitors and I'm not. Just a little story.

[askyourgran]

jordyboy I would never have believed that!!!!

I like my own company but having said that I do know the feeling of being lonely in a crowded room and it really is an awful feeling. Now I know that MrAsk is there at the end of the day but I think I would be able to carry on by myself. I have things I enjoy doing on my own but there is always someone I could call on if I was unhappy about something.

I know of someone who has lived alone for a few years now, he likes company but isn't good at being with people I hate to say this but.... boring. He has recently stopped going out and is quite reclusive and I worry about him, if anything goes wrong he may just do something silly.

[grasscarp]

I am always comfortable with being alone. I know it is not everyones joy but I really look forward to times when I am quite alone and nobody needs me to do anything. Rare.
I do know people who are lonely due to never having a long term partner but dont know how I can help with this for them.

[woofgang]

The only person whose company I have ever preferred to being on my own was my DH. I enjoy seeing friends and family and having family to stay but an happy alone.