I Truly Am Between A Rock And A Hard Place......

[Jeza]

Mic made me promise I would not send him to hospital. I have been up since 2 this morning trying to do my best for him. He is now on the sofa and can't get up, not even with my help. I wish I was a 16 stone navvy,

[Mamyalynne]

Jeza, I know I sound like a broken record but this is now the time you have to break your promise and get help, please please do it.

[naomi24]

Jeza, he must understand that you can't do it, surely? That can't go on. you must get help.

[emmie]

can you not get in some help, family, friends, health care professional?

[Mamyalynne]

I do realise how difficult it is but sometimes we have to go against what we promised for sake of all concerned.

[flump1]

Jeza, I know you have been kind of insular of late but is there no one that could help ? At times like these when other ABers needed help, I wish I lived closer. You may have to have another chat with Mic about that promise and at the time it was realistic, now however... xxx

[Jeza]

I know what you're all saying. I have tears in my eyes, but he would never forgive me.

[DTCwordfan]

You have to get assistance in, Jeza. You can't do this and you risk injuring yourself and then what good would you be to Mic.......tell him this. They may just help and steer you to carer support to.

[pusskin]

i agree with mamy, its just too hard for you jesa, and that promise must be sadly broken. Horrible situation to be in.

[naomi24]

Talk to him again. I know it's hard - I went through something similar quite recently - but he must understand that you can't do it. Talk to him. x

[Mamyalynne]

Sweetheart we understand - it may not mean going into hospital, they could get a bed in downstairs and whatever else is needed, his wish to stay at home will be given the greatest consideration.

[boxtops]

Jeza - ask the GP to make a home visit, then it's not your decision, it's the GP's. Surely mikmak will understand - he may not realise the burden that this is putting on you, even for his basic daily needs.....

[chrissa1]

I was in exactly the same situation as you Jeza. It took me all day to persuade my husband and in the end, he agreed that, little me couldn't lift or carry a man his weight.
You can't manage by yourself. Keep trying to persuade him. You're in my thoughts. X

[Psybbo]

Jeza, I wouldn't know what to do and am amazed at how you have coped so far but you must get help. Much love, sibs.

[sherrardk]

Jeza, you are no good to anyone if you become ill too. I know you don't want to break your promise but this can't go on. Is there any possibility of some help at home from a care agency, etc?

[naomi24]

Do as Boxy suggests. Speak to your doctor, explain your situation, and ask him to do a home visit.

[boxtops]

I know you promised - but how can you manage with everything, toileting and so on? I could weep for you - you need help. You can't do it all. If you do anything e.g. hurt your back, fall, you will both be in hospital.... ring the GP now, you need to.

[Traci66]

Jeza, I really feel for you, my thoughts are with you, I really hope you can get some help xx

[Fusion5]

Jeza, as others have said, if you fall ill with stress or hurt your back, mic would have to be looked after in hospital or a nursing home. By getting help within your home now, this can be avoided.

[boxtops]

Jez - we're here if you want to talk x