crowded house

[tazz]

hi, my sister is living at home at our parents house with her boyfriend and 8 month old baby. my mum and dad want them to get there own place and they want to too. they r currantly on the cancel list but have been 4 sometime now. does any1 know how they can speed up gettin there own place?

[sleepy1]

get your parents to kick them out then they will be home loss and might get a council place other than that buy or rent

[tazz]

do u think it will help if my mum went to cancel herself and maoned abt it? its depressing her big time

[bigmamma]

Is there a Housing Association or some other emergency housing scheme that can assess you for immediate housing ? They would consider you if they thought there was not enough room for you there or if it was detrimental to the well being of you and your children.

[tazz]

its depressing my mum cos all of her kids have grown up, there on a youth list to but they dont seem to b doing anything. somehow they need more points to get further up the list as they only have 25

[bigmamma]

Is your sister , hubby , and baby in the one room ?
I ask because when I came over from Australia with my son we stayed with my parents , there was a 5 yr council wait but as we shared the same bedroom we were assessed after just 2 months and in our own Housing Association emergency housing in the next month.

[tazz]

yes they r in one room n they even gotta share a single bed as they got babies cot n all there stuff. cancel knows this but they dont seem to care

[bigmamma]

It may be worth their while looking for the local Housing agency or Association themselves and putting their case to them. They won't lose their place on the council list meantime. Does your area have a Shoreline or Havelok or some such agency?

[redcrx]

can i just point out its 'council' for a start.... thats better.
If your mum and dad kick them out then they will be found emergency accomodation, this may be a bedsit but its still a step in the right direction.

Have they considered privately renting? If they show they are prepared to at least try and help themselves get out of the family home then they may also be able to get housing benefit to help them pay the rent.

Its not a case of 'if you want, you will get' there are many people in similar situations and many years ago this was the norm.

[4getmenot]

in london its the cancell :-)

[tazz]

whats shoreline bigmamma? sorry redcrx i have a spellin problem always have. my sis wont go into a bedsit.

[redcrx]

your sister cant just sit and wait for a 4 bed detatched house, if thats all that the council can offer then thats all she'll get or she'll have to stay at home.
As i said, her other choice is to try and do something for herself and privately rent and then ask for assistance.

[tazz]

my sister will happily wait 4 a place as she cant b bothered, its my mum and dad thats suffering thou but my mum cant kick them out as she will feel bad. shes in a awkward situation and dont know what to do

[bigmamma]

Shoreline is a housing association like havelok but could be that it's only up in this part of the country. I don.t know what your areas equivalent would be but Havelok are known to have offices round the country. :-)

[peter johnso]

Seems yer mum needs to learn a little tough love.
Because it looks like your sister is just taking advantage of her and yr dad.

If she or boyfriend work then YOU put pressure on them to find a place - better still get them a large garden shed no mod cons.

My vote is kick em out and let them see how hard life really is out there.

[aims1202]

The only way to get a council house quickly is for your parents to evict them. If its affecting them that much they have to do it, even if they feel bad. They will have to move into temporary accomodation, its either that or nothing. I think your sister would rather take a bedsit then be on the street right?
It can sometimes be quite quick to get a council house when your in temporary, especially if its small and there are lots of problems, you get more points then. Its not so bad really, i dont understand why your sister wont live in a bed sit. sounds like she's a bit spoilt!
If your parents let them stay at theirs it will be a long wait. Tell them they need to do it now, it'll be the best thing for everyone.

[leewayne]

I was in the same situation as your sis,get your mum to kick them out and the council will have to house them,we went in a bedsit but it wasnt small it was a whole house cos we had a baby,they housed us within 3 months.your sisters gonna have to stick it out if she wants her own place. i know where your mums comin from and that she feels bad but its for her own benefit in the long run.Or complain to your local mps,write letters and they will right to the council and will asses there situation and make a home visit

[Goodsoulette]

If your sister and her boyfriend were to get married and then he moved out because of the situation then that would get them a house quickly.

[Le Chat]

Things would probably move faster if she had another baby. Has she considered this option yet?

[Compostella]

Oooooooooooooooh

This is making me depressed.

[Compostella]

Not being self rightous but please don't pass on the advice of having another baby or getting married.

The reasons for doing either of these is certainly not to jump the council house list.

What better incentive has your Sister got to get out and earn her way out of this sorry mess, or the father for that matter. Sound like she has free childcare, McDonalds will take anyone it seems.

It sounds as though these people shouldn't be breeding anway.

Oooooooooops, said it now, too late.