Why the rush?

[tigwig]

I have just read on another website I frequently visit that one of the mums is 'toilet training' her 8mth old baby!!! I mean why? Yes he may wee and poo on it but this is no way toilet training. I cannot understand why people want their babies to grow up too soon.

[ummmm]

Impossible to train an 8 month old. All they are doing is predicting when they might go. Babies do not feel the urge to go to the toilet until they are about two.

[cazzz1975]

mums are very competitive when they have babies, when mine were young they used to brag about their kids talking walking ect ect before the expected time, I have lost count at the amount of moms that have informed me that their child is advanced for their age.

[mrs_overall]

That is "toilet timing" not toilet training.

My idiot mother in law swears blind that Mr O was toilet trained before his first birthday. He couldn't walk until he was 17 months old, so how he got himself to the potty and to the toilet is a mystery.

[cazzz1975]

lol reminds me of my ohs friend, he swears his daughter was so advanced that she began walking at 4 months old, he is serious as well!

[ummmm]

Lol....4 months. They are barely holding their head up. My daughter started walking and talking really early....she's really dim now though :-)

[saxy_jag]

Sometimes, if the potty is cold, the shock can trigger a bowel motion. That's all it is, that and, as ummmm says, prediction.

My late mum-in-law claims she held her youngest on the potty at six weeks and never had another dirty nappy from him again. I think she was deluding herself, because she certainly wasn't convincing anyone else.

[cazzz1975]

yes I know ummm, you will be surprised how sensitive people get when you say "oh that cannot be possible"

[KARL]

I agree that a lot of people (in nearly all cases the mothers, not the fathers) are driven to talk of their children as somehow "better" than the rest - far too often at an absurdly inappropriately early point and with the flimsiest of pretext. We observed that when less than a year old, toward the end of or immediately after eating a meal our boys turned red in the face at the obvious effort of straining against their own weight while still in the high chair. Without fail they had filled their nappies at this stage. What we then started doing was to sit them (supported as necessary) on a potty immediately after the meal at this time of day and, voilá, the product emerged with far less effort for the child and also for the mother (no dirty nappy and much less cleaning of the bottom). It is my belief that, while this was not training but mora a question of prediction for the sake of convenience, some learning soon took place, at least through association. When ready, children will announce the need - actually, at first usually too late but eventually they are fine.

[ummmm]

Eventually they will be fine....you don't see many adults wearing nappies. Outside of fetish clubs anyway..

[Booldawg]

All these 'competetive kids' will end up Emos by the age of 12. Mark my words.

[sara3]

ummmm.. you know all the best places ;o)

[tamirra]

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