no, don't tell the kids, annie, or it'll be all round school tomorrow. But within the household we all know how much each other makes, there are always bank statements lying around (though I do try to clear them away if guests are coming), and we (parents) have joint accounts. The whole business of keeping your situation secret from your partner seems weird to me. As for my parents they never much cared, but my Mum did once say (for reasons too complicated to go into) that she'd seen the chief justice's salary in the paper that morning and wished I earned that much; I told her I did, which both cheered her up and shut her up. (NB in her country chief justices don't earn that much!)