On Your Head Chatteris 30Th June
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Can anyone tell me how the hell I can stop my 14 year old girl from being so effing stroppy? I've about had enough, she's stroppy with everyone and i'm close to throwing her out.
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my 17yr old is still like that and ive told her if she doesnt
change she out too,theres no need for it,the way they speak to you,god sometimes im scarred to even ask her how her days been or whats shes been up too,shes like a jeckel and hide,ive started to treat her in the same way and she hates it tonight shes been fine
change she out too,theres no need for it,the way they speak to you,god sometimes im scarred to even ask her how her days been or whats shes been up too,shes like a jeckel and hide,ive started to treat her in the same way and she hates it tonight shes been fine
As a dad of the third teenage girl in our house, I sympethise!
This is a horrible time for young people, they hate themselves, and try to make sure everyone else feels the same way! I know what you mean - basic courtesy seems to be ignored a lot of the time.
What you need is endless patience. Try and let things slide unless it really is getting nasty, in which case try to stay calm! If she slams out, don't follow her - that simply shifts the row to a new location. Speak in a low calm voice, be reasonable (she won't be!) and don't be too keen to have the last word.
When you are having a calm quiet time together, remind her how much you love her, and you do remember what she is going through, and that you are there to help and support her, even though it doesn't feel like that a lot of the time.
At this stage, you have to enjoy the calm affectionate times, and ride out the vile moody times, and eventually she will 'come back' to you as an adult. It takes time, but she will appreciate it - trust me!
This is a horrible time for young people, they hate themselves, and try to make sure everyone else feels the same way! I know what you mean - basic courtesy seems to be ignored a lot of the time.
What you need is endless patience. Try and let things slide unless it really is getting nasty, in which case try to stay calm! If she slams out, don't follow her - that simply shifts the row to a new location. Speak in a low calm voice, be reasonable (she won't be!) and don't be too keen to have the last word.
When you are having a calm quiet time together, remind her how much you love her, and you do remember what she is going through, and that you are there to help and support her, even though it doesn't feel like that a lot of the time.
At this stage, you have to enjoy the calm affectionate times, and ride out the vile moody times, and eventually she will 'come back' to you as an adult. It takes time, but she will appreciate it - trust me!
You can't throw her out; she's your 14 year old daughter.. Maybe she needs to feel more loved and supported.. At that age it will be hard for her to start negotiating coming into adulthood... She's bound to be stroppy. If it's something more serious, you need to ask her what the problem is and try to change the things that are causing the issues. Good luck.
I have a 13 yr old who is just the same - luckyeight - I dont think for 1 minute chelsea is serious about throwing her out but I understand what she means. At times it can feel like its the only option. Its very hard especially when two females have PMT! Its like world war 3. I dont know how we will get through her teenage years but we will. We love her and she knows it but it doesnt stop the strops. Its hard to imagine we went through the same thing at their age isnt it? Take a deep breath Chelsea and turn round and walk in the other direction. Perhaps tell her when you are both calm just how much she is upsetting everyone. But I dont suppose she will listen. Good luck hun I sympathise with you.
Our 11 year old has just started this behaviour. Its hard to know how to deal with it at first. Ignoring most of it (but not to the point of not dealing with it) is the best method.I was told to count to 10, but sometimes find myself going way beyond that, up to 37 on a bad day. Its part of growing up and theres not much behind the stropiness.
young teenage girls are sensitive, confused and pi*sed off a lot of the time but don't blame her because years later she'll probably feel guilty for being that way. just give her space, dont pressure her, if she wants to talk make it clear you are there but don't try to force it. a lot of the time if you just let it pass she'll pass through the moods. just remember she's only young. my brother was near enough kicked out before he was sixteen and ended up staying with foster families and it's done him no good. teenagers need patience and just to know you're there.
Try and give her some positive feedback and spend one on one time with her. If you are at the point of wanting to through her out i expect you expect the worse when she opens her mouth. Why not go on a 1-2-1 girlie shopping trip together. It doesnt have to cost money if thats a problem but just window shopping even. She could just need your attention.
i was an absolute, and i mean terrible, teenager and to be honest i probably did it for attention only. i wasnt necessarily happy but that could have been fixed with 1-2-1 time. You cant stand to be around her and she knows that. The only way to improve it is to change your outlook on her first.
i was an absolute, and i mean terrible, teenager and to be honest i probably did it for attention only. i wasnt necessarily happy but that could have been fixed with 1-2-1 time. You cant stand to be around her and she knows that. The only way to improve it is to change your outlook on her first.
