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Do You Ever Think You've Failed As A Parent?
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I'm sure my Mum and Dad have had similar thoughts, from time to time. I do my best to let them know that they haven't.
I have seen some of the stuff you've posted recently, nailit, and I'm really sorry that you are going through such crap right now. I know that thoughts and best wishes can't do much to help but, for what little it's worth, I do care.
I'm sure my Mum and Dad have had similar thoughts, from time to time. I do my best to let them know that they haven't.
I have seen some of the stuff you've posted recently, nailit, and I'm really sorry that you are going through such crap right now. I know that thoughts and best wishes can't do much to help but, for what little it's worth, I do care.
Not even 7 weeks in and yes, every single day.
Sometimes you can be your own severest critic and constantly go back and ask of yourself, "How could I have done that better?"
Parenting is not an exact science or a one-size-fits-all. Different children will respond to different approaches depending on their personality.
I'm personally of the belief that a parent should be a parent and not a friend!
Sometimes you can be your own severest critic and constantly go back and ask of yourself, "How could I have done that better?"
Parenting is not an exact science or a one-size-fits-all. Different children will respond to different approaches depending on their personality.
I'm personally of the belief that a parent should be a parent and not a friend!
Depends how you define failed and succeeded in the context of your question.
I never give it a thought as i did what i thought was the best for my kids with the available resources.......and i don't mean just financial resources.
They have their own families and I am pretty sure they do not analyse me or Mrs sqad as successful or failures as parents and even if they did, their adverse conclusions wouldn't bother me.
No nailit.......... never give it a second thought.
I never give it a thought as i did what i thought was the best for my kids with the available resources.......and i don't mean just financial resources.
They have their own families and I am pretty sure they do not analyse me or Mrs sqad as successful or failures as parents and even if they did, their adverse conclusions wouldn't bother me.
No nailit.......... never give it a second thought.
I posted last week about my son and his GF self harming and spending the night up A&E with both of them. Spent time up the fracture clinic with my son yesterday because he had broke his finger in the incident.
Tonight, his GF has come over and they are both sitting listening to music in the kitchen and getting p1 ssed on cheap cider.
What the hell can I say to them when hes had a role model like me who has tried to commit suicide and has had a drink problem?
His attitude is getting a little bit lairy now, dont know how to handle it without getting a ''well you can talk'' kind of attitude thrown back at me.
For Gods sakes, ive only ever wanted the best for him, just hoped against hope that he would have learnt from me, not copied me.
Tonight, his GF has come over and they are both sitting listening to music in the kitchen and getting p1 ssed on cheap cider.
What the hell can I say to them when hes had a role model like me who has tried to commit suicide and has had a drink problem?
His attitude is getting a little bit lairy now, dont know how to handle it without getting a ''well you can talk'' kind of attitude thrown back at me.
For Gods sakes, ive only ever wanted the best for him, just hoped against hope that he would have learnt from me, not copied me.
Nailit, my biological father gave me my first beating when I was 10 months old. For many years my mother led me to believe she was out of the house when this attack took place but only recently my aunt revealed that she was sat in the next room smoking at time and never attempted to intervene or protect me.
She left him before I turned 3 and a judge had the good sense to forbid him from having any access to me. I was made a Ward of Court.
My own mother began regularly beating me from the between the ages of 7 and 9, which was the only period of my childhood when we lived alone. She threatened that if I told anyone there would be consequences and frequently kept me off school after a beating. Everyday she screamed at me and called me an "imbecile", a "stupid fool", an "idiot" and "an embarrassment."
When I was 12 she married me step-father who was jealous and insecure and spoke to me only with his fists. She regularly looked on whilst he walked across the room and violently assaulted me.
You may not be the best parent in the world (and I won't ever convince myself that I am) but you're certainly not the worst by any stretch.
She left him before I turned 3 and a judge had the good sense to forbid him from having any access to me. I was made a Ward of Court.
My own mother began regularly beating me from the between the ages of 7 and 9, which was the only period of my childhood when we lived alone. She threatened that if I told anyone there would be consequences and frequently kept me off school after a beating. Everyday she screamed at me and called me an "imbecile", a "stupid fool", an "idiot" and "an embarrassment."
When I was 12 she married me step-father who was jealous and insecure and spoke to me only with his fists. She regularly looked on whilst he walked across the room and violently assaulted me.
You may not be the best parent in the world (and I won't ever convince myself that I am) but you're certainly not the worst by any stretch.
Cmon Nails how can we not fail? We all want better for our kids. But try as we may they have to do it for themselves ultimately.
“They *** you up, your mum and dad.
They may not mean to, but they do.
They fill you with the faults they had
And add some extra, just for you.
But they were *** up in their turn
By fools in old-style hats and coats,
Who half the time were soppy-stern
And half at one another's throats.
Man hands on misery to man.
It deepens like a coastal shelf.
Get out as early as you can,
And don't have any kids yourself.”
― Philip Larkin
“They *** you up, your mum and dad.
They may not mean to, but they do.
They fill you with the faults they had
And add some extra, just for you.
But they were *** up in their turn
By fools in old-style hats and coats,
Who half the time were soppy-stern
And half at one another's throats.
Man hands on misery to man.
It deepens like a coastal shelf.
Get out as early as you can,
And don't have any kids yourself.”
― Philip Larkin
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