My Beloved Mum Died Today - Please Help Me.

[jambutty]

I don't know how I'm going to cope.

[silliemillie]

My heart goes out to you xxx

[-SharonA-]

Jambutty, I am so very sorry to hear your sad news. I lost my mum over ten years ago and can imagine how you are feeling.

[pastafreak]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Please take comfort in the fact that you were with her when she needed you.

[granny grump]

So sorry to hear your sad news jam I know exactly how you feel I too was with mum as she died. Really awful at the time but as time passed it became a kind of comfort. Be kind to yourself and talk about her often remembering all the good times and funny moments you had together. She will always be with you in your thoughts. Take care jam it wont be an easy time for you but you have friends here xx

[jennyjoan]

Hi Jam - truly sorry for your loss as it does seem very quick and unexpected. My own mother died in my arms some years back and like you I was very close to her so it was devastating for me. No point in saying it will be easy no it won't but as time goes on the heaviness in your heart lightens with each passing day. Very sad for you today. xx

[elliemay1]

I was with my mum when she died 8 yrs ago and I still miss her and dream about her. At the beginning it's like a physical ache and a longing but as time goes on you realise you have to accept it. I often find myself reacting to situations the way she would have and saying things that she would have said. I can still hear her voice and when I have a decision to make I feel that she guides me. So even though things look hopeless at the minute there are brighter days ahead. Just take it slowly and allow yourself to grieve. Remember the good times and be glad that you had such a good relationship. She would want you to be happy.

[Smowball]

Very sorry to hear your sad news. We are all thinking of you. I lost my own mum 7 years ago aged just 59 and I can remember it like yesterday . We're all thinking of you xx

[jamesnan]

So sorry for your loss, the pain never goes, it just gets easier to cope with. Everyone shares your pain if they have been in the same position, you are not alone, we are all on here for you x

[cupid04]

My thoughts and prayers are with you at this sad time. xx

[TWR]

Jam, I have this to come, my Mother is 98 for now in really good health but has Dementia, the only thing I can say, remember the good times, remember the Laughs, if you Mum has been in pain in any way, now she is at piece, the old lad up there has some very mysterious ways, your Mum is at his side now & smiling down at you, think of her as settled, Take Care. x

[murraymints]

hope you managed a wee bit sleep Jam...have been thinking of you...xx

[waterboatman]

jam I'm so sorry to see that. You have done the right thing coming on here. The support I got when my dearly loved Vera left this world helped me to get through the worst of it. But as many have said, you do need someone with you, family or a good friend.

You will get through this because you must. You will think of your lovely mum every day, as I think of, and talk to, my Vera every day.

I wish you all the best.

[mallyh]

so very sorry to hear your sad news ,in time you will think of all the happy times you shared .xx

[Doof45]

So sorry to hear this sad news. My heart goes out to you xx

[Patsy33]

It's a shock to the system, I was in turmoil when it happened to me. You never think you are going to lose your Mum. You need to go along with your feelings and cry your heart out when needed. In time, it will get a little more comfortable to deal with. Try to remember the good times and know you will carry your precious Mum in your heart for all times. Big hugs. xx

[chanel5]

I am so sorry, jambutty, you have all my sympathy. My Mum died when I was 22, and the big mistake I made was bottling up my feelings. I talked to no one about it, just hid away the grief and it almost tore me apart. Talk to someone, don't be scared to cry. Talk about the good times with your Mum, and the times when things were more difficult. Your Mum will always be with you, in your heart, in your memory and in your soul. Hugs.

[jambutty]

Thank you everyone for the lovely and understanding comments. I am in absolute despair today. Mum meant the very world to me and when she went into hospital three weeks ago my brother and I never though she wouldn't come out again. When she died she looked straight at me, but before that she had been staring at the ceiling - did she know ?? She was so brave eating when she didn't really want to, but we urged her on saying it will make her strong, oh bless her. She ate her vegetables. I know I have a lot of hard times to come and I know that I will hear things on the news or see things and I'll think, like I always did, 'wait till I tell Mum'. There's no-one like you Mum is there?

[Mamyalynne]

Mum most likely did know it was her time, she leaves you with such memories though - cling to those.x

[cupid04]

I agree jambutty, there's no-one quite like mum. I lost mine back in 1971 and I often wonder how different my life would have been with her still here.
Give yourself time to work with your grief. Seek counselling if necessary. It may help. Take each day one step at a time. And don't bottle up your emotions. xx

[mccfluff]

sorry to hear your news x