Dying Matters

[maggiebee]

Today marks the start of Dying Matters Awareness Week (18-24 May 2015), which is all about raising awareness of the importance of talking about and planning for end of life. Just interested to know if any of you have thought seriously about this and have made any plans. I have a will (a bit outdated now) and feel I should do more, but it's not something I think about too much.

[Buenchico]

I've made a will and it states:
"I desire that my body be cremated without ceremony and that my ashes by disposed of, also without ceremony, in any convenient refuse receptacle".

There doesn't seem to be much else left to do!

[cupid04]

Already paid for my funeral so my daughter doesn't have to....

[mazie]

I think it's more about preparing your loved ones...I talk to the kids about it and I think they understand that it's a process of life. Although I know they will miss me, they know that life goes on and as long as they and the their children are around,so is part of me.... I have made a will but that's not the important bit for me, it's preparing my kids as best as I can. I think they get it.

[Elina]

I have life cover. Haven't got around to making a will yet, but have talked about it.

[Gavmacp]

I heard something that made sense. We all prepare wills but the person said about leaving a letter. Though hard I think it is good way if saying all the things you would like to say.

[bobbie22]

I have made a will, and written a letter.

[woofgang]

I have made a will. I don't care what happens to my body. I have written a letter in case I fall under a bus but there's no need to leave a letter for the people I care about. They know how I feel.

[ladyalex]

I've made a will and arranged for my body to go for medical research.
I don't care what happens to it after I die, so if anything can be recycled to someone else, that's fine by me.
If my carcass is no good for that, then I'm hoping the nearest medical school will take it for any purpose they wish.
I would like any friends and family to have a drink and a 'funeral tea' , because I think the survivors do have to mark the occasion somehow.
I have spoken to the son-and-heir about it all as well as sorting it all out with a lawyer and he seems OK with it.

[anneasquith]

made a will, power of attorney arranged, burial plot arranged, party after the funeral , steak pie MUST be on the menu with drinks . :)

[naomi24]

A friend of ours suddenly fell ill and was given six months to live. She spent that time putting all her affairs in order and organising her own funeral. I so admired her fortitude that we now have a 'Clog Popping' file, containing wills, insurance policies, information on banks and all our financial arrangements, funeral wishes, lists of people to contact, and everything our nearest and dearest would need to know in the event of our demise.

[askyourgran]

It is a subject that many people don't want to think about. I find the words and the idea of planning for the end of life rather frightening. I can't think of a time where I want to say 'Do not resuscitate' if I become very ill, then again there maybe a time when I want them to, but not at the planning stage right now. I have made a will and expressed the wish for cremation. That is all I want to do for the time being. My SIL was at home dying of cancer at the very end of her life, only then she asked to be taken into the Cancer unit where she lived for a few hours longer. I admired her courage.

[237SJ]

I must admit, I have done nothing whatsoever. I should look into it sometime.

[FrogNog]

I haven't made any plans for my own departure show and I don't plan to. They can do whatever they want, including dumping me in a skip. I wouldn't organise my own surprise birthday and I won't organise my own funeral.
I'll be dead, I won't care.
I have made sure a couple of items go where I'd want, but apart from that, ***.

[FrogNog]

Good lord...S-0d 1T

[Gavmacp]

I was brought up as a Christian, though now a non believer. I do believe in euthanasia but do not know if I could self administer, goes against my non existent faith, yes I am a hypocrit! Spent some time in homes watching the elderly live out their last days. I have yet to see anything that disagrees with my euthanasia belief. Would love to believe there is dignity in care but rarely see it, you are just an object, to be got up, fed, toileted (eventually) and if lucky engaged.

[bodeker]

I think it is important to talk about what you would like, I just mentioned by chance something about my funeral and my daughter looked at me in surprise and said Oh i was just going to get a humanist minister and get you cremated !!! Needless to say I will be putting down in writing and letting them know what I wish to happen when I go !

[Gavmacp]

Came across something at the back of a drawer. Mother said 'that's what I want at my funeral'. I had to smile when that time comes I am going to open that drawer and find that box that had that piece of paper and know what it means!

[woofgang]

how do you know they will do it and what will you do if they don't?

[bodeker]

Well I did think that maybe I would get one those prepaid funeral plans and have it all arranged and paid for.

[bodeker]

Off the subject I know but I find it sad that neither of my children believe in God.