what is reactionary grief?

[ilovemarkb]

Nothing comes up on google thanks

[mike11111]

I presume it means being sorry after the event.

[lcg]

something bad happens...then you feel crap. in what sense, exactly?

[NoMercy]

My GP wrote something like grief/stress reaction on my sicknote when I lost my Nan, etc.

[woofgang]

where did the phrase come from? "Reactive grief" makes sense. That's grief that is the result of something like bereavement. "Endogenous grief" is grief without an external cause, eg as a result of alzheimers changes in the brain.

[woofgang]

if you google reactive grief, there are loads of hits.

[ilovemarkb]

basically its for an essay about a stroke patient coming to terms with loss (mobility etc)

[dotty.]

does it not mean that someone is purposefully denying themselves the time to grieve? they are not allowing themselves to succomb (sp)to the natural grieving process? maybe a type of depression involved?

[lcg]

i would imagine it is about coping with loss and change in life....and going through the different stages of grief. there are several models. also, ask your tutor what the phrase means to them. that would be my (nursing) take on it x

[woofgang]

that's reactive grief not reactionary.

Google "post stroke bereavement"

[ilovemarkb]

YES the main theme throughout is LOSS and GRIEF (kubler-ross etc) and its for nursing! Thanks i'm finding lots of info now! Thanks Again

[lcg]

make sure you look at all the outcomes for the assignment and link them through the topic with a chosen model of grief. kubler-ross is standard, but by no means the only one.

[woofgang]

not a problem. Don't get waylaid by the seven stages of grief bollix.
If you want a good general book on bereavement, try "You'll get over it" by Virginia Ironside. Its the one book that helped me and I reckon it should be compulsory reading for healthcare professionals who deal with any kind of bereavement. Its written after the author lost her father but the feelings and comments are IMO appropriate to any bereavement situation. Its available on kindle for about 7 quid or the library might have it.

[ilovemarkb]

gee thanks woofgang ! You're very helpful xx

[lcg]

woofgang....it's a nursing essay. she will have to worry about a model of grief and how to recognise this in patients and give them support. i'm afraid ms. ironside would be quite useless!

[woofgang]

how can you "choose" a model of grief??? I am a retired health care professional (Occupational Therapist). Attempting to describe someone else's grief through a model strikes me as controlling in the extreme.

[woofgang]

then she should be doing the required stuff and adding a comment that it is total bollix...thats what i did when I was training as an OT and at inservice stuff.

[lcg]

from a perspective of writing the essay, woofgang. you have a patient, a loss, a model and essay objectives. all of which need to be addressed in whichever module of the course ilovemarkb is currently doing. wind your neck in and read the question and the answers that i am giving (i am both a nurse and uni lecturer)!!!!!

[eyethenkyew]

It used to happen to me on the football field, did 'reactionary grief', usually when an opposing player blootered the ball into mine(cough, please!).

[ilovemarkb]

yes been doing some research and George Bonanno didnt believe in kubler-Ross. Theres also worden, hopson bowlby and many others to explore. Its difficult to do in my essay as the stroke patient hast died but merely mourning the loss of her former self xx

[lcg]

if you did that in my lectures/essays....you would fail.