Should you go back with an ex?

[Petal~flower]

If he dumped you, in not a very nice way, but is now very keen to get back with you?

Do you try and forgive and forget, or just forget and move on????

[Petal~flower]

oy you lot, stop chattering in Chatterbank and answer my Q :-)

[snow.maiden]

Keep him at bay Petal! Have you met someone else, and he's now getting jealous? Has he realised the grass wasn't greener after all?
Blow him! If he can do it once, he can do it again. Think more of yourself hun, and move on to someone who deserves you. x

[joggerjayne]

Well I wouldn't get back with mine. He can f off.

Look, you know he has the capacity within him to dump you nastily.

[joggerjayne]

Whatever Icey says, don't blow him. That's probably all he's after.


Oh. Got the wrong end of the stick again (skulks off).

[snow.maiden]

Pmsl!!!!! It might make her sick as well! no Petal - forget him. x

[nocturnalme]

I'm a male (whether I'm a MAN is another subject!) But, knowing what us males are like, tread carefully. We hate seeing our 'possessions' being touched by others. It's an ego thing. Childish. Hence I differentiated bewteen 'male' and 'man'.

[lindapinda]

Hi Petal :-)..I understand where you're coming from here. It can be very tempting,when the person is being nice again,on his terms. The only thing is,can you trust and believe that he won't turn round and dump you again? Every relationship is different,and only the two people in it really know whats going on though ;-)

[Petal~flower]

Thanks girls .....

Ice, I think, he realises the grass is not greener!! he is full of promises of how sorry he was etc etc...........am not exactly knocking blokes away from my door, so thinking "better the devil you know" sort of thing.........was with him for a long time xx

Jayne....that made me laugh.........but yeah, also I know he has, and thats whats in my mind

[pastafreak]

forget.......he just wants what he can't have-especially if he thinks you may be with someone else. I had a major panic after me and my ex first seperated. I kept wondering if I had done the right thing..just meeting up with him convinced me I had!

[Petal~flower]

nocturnalme, thanks for that, but I had not moved on since he dumped me, spent a whole year wallowing in self pity, not that he knew that.

hiya Linda, yes getting loads of promises of it never happening again.....

[snow.maiden]

It's easy to think "better the devil you know", or to look back on the good times and forget the bad, but just think carefully hun. If he had to dump you, then there was no need for any nastiness. It shows what the guy really is - which I'm sure you can do without. If he'd ever loved you, he wouldnt've treated you so badly - but of course, it's up to you.

[Petal~flower]

hi Pasta, he didnt know if I was seeing anyone or not ......just contacted me a few weeks ago...........

[legend006]

Hes after vsex , and thats it.
Go there at your own risk.

Danger is if youre even considering it , to the point of posting heree perhaps for reasssurance , then youve probably succcumbed to his charms.

If thats teh case then im suer you will do as you please and i can only hope the inevitable doesnt happen for some reason.

Though i very much doubt it.


Nevr go back , its just that , a step backward , and if you were treated badlyn then have some self respect and tell him to fk offf , though you really shouldve done that automatically .
Worryingly it appears you didnt.

[Petal~flower]

Thats what I thought Ice, but I have very low self esteem, and so part of me is thinking, its better than being on my own...

plus I didnt stop having feelings for him, even though he dumped me so nastily

[lindapinda]

I think if you really trusted him and knew you were both right for each other,you wouldnt have to ask on here babes?

[Petal~flower]

thanks legend

For once, I can agree with you

[Petal~flower]

yeah you are right Linda............

The wine made me post ;-) xx

[snow.maiden]

Of COURSE it didn't just kill your feelings dead. I bet you were very hurt - but Legend's right, as well as the others.
It's like a man who beats his woman up. They promise never to do it again, but in many cases it just repeats. Not ALWAYS, but mostly.
Look in the mirror when you're feeling good about yourself Petal. I bet there are a lot of guys out there who'd like you. Just take a deep breath, and get out with any girl friends or family. You'll meet someone better one day, and then wonder why you wasted time on your ex.

[ChuckFickens]

why is it that relationships are always the only part of our lifes we ever think about going back, in every other way we want to go forwards!

The guy has treated you badly by your own admission so why would you want to go back that way to risk being treated badly again.

I'm a bloke too, but I see how badly some men can treat women and from the sound of it do not go back there! if he can break your heart once he can do it again.

Move on and find yourself one that cares for you the way you care for him.

and thats the view of a slightly tipsy bloke :)

Good luck X

[legend006]

Hes parked his bike there before.
Now hes nowhere to park it its easier to park it wheer he thinks its easier.

Better easier with a stranger and make a new mistake rather than repeat an old one .

Im never far from the truth , often my honesty bothers folk.

But thats what it is , honesty.