Not being able to orgasm

[ahhhhhh]

i cant orgasm through penetrative sex, i'm quite aware it is common, but it upsets/dissapoints my bf

any tips how to?

[jno]

it's quite common not to; clitoral stimulation is more reliable. Why not teach your boyfriend how to do it?

[msbowwow4eva]

shes right. playing with your clit is what really make you orgasm.

[curlyloxx]

hop on top. As he's inside you, your clit will rub against him. Good luck!

[lady_p_gold]

If he can't do it right then you can always go doggy style and do a bit of DIY at the same time ...

[loobie]

Hi ahhhhhh, it toook me ages to understand why sex was so good!! None of my first three boyfriends made me orgasm. It was only my ex that first managed it and pretty much every time!! I think you need to be aware yourself of what you like and be really comfortable sexually. I am much more aware now than I was as a teenager and can't remember the last time I didn't orgasm through full sex. Being on top is definately the easiest way to have one so give it a go...its bl00dy good exercise as well!!!!!!

[andy-hughes]

I think you are getting hung up on what your boyfriend wants, to the detriment of what you want and need.

Yes it is always nice to please your partner, but you need to explain to him that you don't orgasm this way because it's the way you are, not because of some failure on his part, and he should not be too keen on supposed 'ideal' sex.

If you put pressure on yourself, and him, you are not going to orgasm anyway, which depends entirely on relaxation, and going with the moment.

You could try pressing your clitoris gently against the shaft of his penis as he moves in an out, or let him do it (gently!) and see if that works. if not, forget about it, and concentrate on finding what is good for both of you, and don't let this get in the way.

Good sex is about what suits the two of you at the time, and nothing to do with imagined techniques or strategies, so relax, and enjoy yourslves!