Is this in bad taste?

[Captin Kirk]

I considered posting this in Family or even Religion & Spirituality but seeing as I spend most of my time lurking in here when I'm about I thought it's a good a place as any.

Anyway ... I haven't been around on here much lately as sadly my mother passed away last week after a long illness. Thing is we are due to visit the chapel of rest tomorrow to see her one last time and place photos and a couple of other tokens in with her. She has always loved the horses and placed a few bets for as long as I can remember nearly every day up until her eyesight caused problems with reading the form in the newspaper.

My plan is to pop into the bookies tomorrow and stick a fiver on the favourite in one of the afternoons races and pop the betting slip under the photos so she can have one last flutter. I'm considering not even bothering to check afterwards to see if it has won but maybe will tell the rest of my family next week after her cremation.

I'm not particularly religious but do you think this would be wrong and could offend somebody?

[jackthehat]

Who else do you have to consider ?

I think it's a perfectly acceptable thing to do. :o)

[Bobbisox]

I think this is a lovely gesture from you Captain
sorry for your sad loss

[joko]

well its her funeral , so if it wouldnt offend her then its just tough if someon else is bothered

[squarebear]

Nothing wrong with that. It's a great idea.

[Invictas]

If it doesn't offend you,then it surely shouldn't offend anyone.
I think it's a really nice thought.
I wish I could have done something similar for my Mum,but my Stepfather had it all organised before I could.
I hope your Mum has a winning ticket! LOL

[sherrardk]

Sorry for your loss but I think it's a brilliant idea and that if you don't do it you will always wish that you had. x

[LoftyLottie]

I just think this is something rather lovely between you and your mother and is very personal and loving. Who could possibly be offended. Your mother would be so touched by this.

I am sorry you have lost her. xx

[craft1948]

I think it's a lovely idea Kirky........my nan sent my poor uncle to the bookies every day of the week for about 30 years.....

[MickyMacgraw]

Sorry to hear about your mother captain Kirk.
I think it's a beautiful and poetic thing to do, go for it and I hope the horse comes in first.

[DTCwordfan]

sorry here too - my mother wants a bottle of sherry and beetroot in her box.....

[Eve]

I think it's a lovely idea.

So sorry for your loss. I am going to my nan's funeral tomorrow and have had a verse specially translated into welsh so I can read it at the service, she was a fluent Welsh speaker and would have loved it. Just praying I say it all right as it's been a long time since I've spoken any Welsh!

[ELVIS68]

Not bad taste at all, if the horse wins the unclaimed winnings will eventually go to the Injured Jockeys Fund

Stick a copy of The Racing Post in as well, I know I`d want that when I go

[cazzz1975]

its a lovely idea cap, sorry to hear on your loss though x

[anneasquith]

im sorry to hear about your mum cap................. great idea .

[Bobbisox]

my pal put that much in her hubbys casket, they couldn't lift it but it was all stuff she felt she wanted to put there and their meanings, so good on her I say

[Captin Kirk]

Thank you all for your kind words, they are very much appreciated.

Don't get me wrong, I think she would have loved the idea and we are not the biggest family and they would probably have a chuckle about it afterwards but the service is in a catholic church and there will be fair few in the church .... not that I'm bothered but I'm interested to know if it would likely cause offence.

[welshlibranr]

Not in bad taste at all Captin, sure she'd love it, hope her horse comes in!..........

[naomi24]

Kirk, I'm so sorry for your loss, and I know what a hard time this is for you, but go for it!! It's a lovely idea. I always think funerals should be a celebration of life - so if this was something she enjoyed do it - celebrate her life by doing something she would enjoy - and if anyone is offended - tough! I think she'll be smiling. x