It's so unfair that at age 27 I still feel sick with worry about girls I like.

[Supernick]

I feel like I'm about 17 again, and this shouldn't be happening to me, but I think I'm getting quite obsessed (in a NON CREEPY way) with a girl at work. I really like her, and I'm convinced she's perfect for me. I've been spending a fair bit of time together, and we go out to lunch most days, just the two of us. I can't tell if she's interested though, and it's driving me nuts. How on earth am I
A. Going to find out she's interested
B. Actually ask her out. This is someone I work with so it's going to have to be during the day.

[Pippa68]

Well I am sure you would be able to improvise with those utensils, Rev ;o)

I seem to remember the DJ was into Rock music, but of course he knew how to charm the laydeeez.

[Reverandfunk]

When I put the afro on and the vicars outfit lol

Im a rocker at heart so I do put a wig and top hat on and pretend to be Slash...

I probably could pull but to be honest most of the time I just can't be ar5ed lol

[Supernick]

"ta. yup, wasnt so scary after all!!"

I guess it's still on then for the potential asking out.

[cheries]

woooooo-hoooooooo

[China Doll]

She's a woman of few words huh?!

Definitely still on hun, go for it. Have you figured out how you're going to do it or what you're going to say? Or are you going for a cold blurt as discussed yesterday?

[Pippa68]

This is like waiting for the dentist.

When are you going to do it...at lunch?

[Supernick]

Probably lunch. But beware that I'm totally all mouth and no trousers and may well bottle it at the last moment. You can't be strolling round the park at lunch, ask her out, get knocked back and then spend another half hour walking. Equally well, you can't really do it in the loby at work 2 minutes before you head back to your desk. Decisions, decisions.

[China Doll]

Well yeah... if you drop down on one knee and ask her out it may well make the next half an hour uncomfortable!

You're overthinking this again Nick... just drop in to conversation about going for a drink, keep casual but have it understood that it'd be just you two.

Chin up man! Think what Donatello would do... and then do what one of the cooler turtles would do instead!

[Supernick]

She likes Raphael. This is doomed to failure. Doomed.

[WoWo]

Just get on with it man :)

I know exactly where you are coming from, at the end of the day you really do have nothing to lose. Worse thing that can happen is she will say no.

However you need to be totally clear on what your asking her, i.e. make it 100% clear it is a date.

I have been out with plenty of ladies but only ever plucked up the courage to ask one out cold (i.e. not having spent the night in a pub doing the ground work). It wasn't much of a success but I'm glad I did it as I instantly knew where I stood.

[VillageVicar]

Super: If you�re shy, perhaps during one of your �chats� ask her about several films that are currently playing and see which ones she alludes to liking most. And if you find there�s one you believe you might enjoy as well, say that you�ve been thinking about seeing it yourself and simply say � If we both enjoy the same type, perhaps we should see it together and compare notes.� This would allow you to segue into talking about something else if she doesn�t respond favourably � just talk about another film. Or, if the response was favourable, simply say, �that sounds nice.� I�ll check to see where it�s playing and we can set a day to go.� You don�t even have to use the word �date.� And if those lights are green, the day before you go, tell her that you were thinking of eating after the film and ask her if she�d like to have dinner with you.

Go get em tiger!

Oh...don't forget to brush your teeth, wash your hair, scoop the dark stuff from beneath your fingernails, and CHANGE your underwear! (not just turn them inside out!)

Good luck

[China Doll]

She sounds like a very sound and sorted lady!

WoWo's right.

[China Doll]

Well?

[Supernick]

Nothing in this world ever works out remotely how I plan things. Having laid perfect foundations during the morning, I got called into what should have been a short client meeting at midday. At 1.05pm having frantically tried to wind it up for 15 minutes, I half ran back into the office to find out that she'd already left for lunch.
A spot check of our local haunts revealed no sign, so it hasn't been done. ...

[Pippa68]

Oh bu88er....

[Hellyon]

I'm keeping notes, I can see a best seller in this Nick!

Oh and from someone who is nearly twice your age a bit of 'I wish I'd known then what I know now' type advise. Life is too short to not take a risk in case you makea prat of yourself. Trust me I now can't remember most my more mortifying moments in my twenties so they obviously didn't matter that much!!!

Good Luck Nick - if she says no it will be her loss not yours, you sound lovely to me.

[VillageVicar]

And Nick, may I add one final thought from my own peanut factory of emotion:

It is much easier to get forgiveness than it is to get permission!

Good luck!

Fr Bill

[indieanna86]

I'd say email her this afternoon, asking if she'd like to go for a drink or to see a film sometime, I'm sure she'll say yes! Girls love to be asked out, even if they say no (which I'm sure she won't) us girls find it sooo flattering.

Keep us up to date and lots of luck - the suspense is killing me!

[Kidd72]

Don't worry mate your client was probably a decoy (as shes always out to lunch with you) so that other bloke that fancies her has a chance to tell her how lovely her hair is, and would like to see her after work sometime.

Don't take too long, they might really be swarming....

[Goodsoulette]

Lol. I think China came up with the plan, ask her out on one knee. Get your mate too video it and send us the link.