drugs

[sleepyj]

my son of 12 come home and said he had smoked some stuff not sure what it was . dope or some thing . i know the boy that gave him it what do i do now , if i go to police and give the boys name they will prob make my sons life hell the boy is 14 or 15 . my son feels ill i dont thnk he will do it again he said he only had a few puffs . im not letting him out now for very long time and no computer tv etc .if i asked police to give him stiff talking to would they . thanks ps i dont even smoke

[babydust]

i would just leave it in a sense dont go to the police.
My sister did the same thing. if you report the other person to the police it may make the situation with your son worse and could get him into sh** with the other person its best to leave it but have a firm talk with your son

[missjef]

i would just leave it aswell, your son told you about it, which is a really good thing for him to have done so even though it was wrong for him to smoke it in the first place you should be happy that your son obviously feels that he can confide in you so if you tell the police or anything then it will probably dent this confidence that he has if that makes sense.
It sounds like he won't be doing it again, so try not to worry about it.
If you think the boys will make your sons life hell then i wouldnt do anything to make it worse. Just talk to your son and try make him see some sense, but thank him for confiding in you as i bet a lot of teenage sons wouldnt have said a word!!

[sleepyj]

yes your both right ,i dont think he will do it again as i have put fear of god in to him what drugs can do to him . i am lucky that he owned up . if i went to police he prob would never tell me anything again . thanks for your answers

[yapisle]

Its time people stood up to this kind of thing .... but, I sympatize with your dilemma of not wishing to bring retribution onto your son.

At least report it anonymously to the police and to the school head. Think how best to do this, and what you are going to say.

Wait for a little time before doing so, and do not tell anyone - even your closest confidant.

Remember you can help others - Next time your son or another child could be seriously ill / die because of this hell boy pusher.

[###w-m###]

Speak to "The Schools Liasion Officer".(SLO) Every district has to have one, under Home Officer rules. Yes they cover sometimes up to a 100 schools, but they should be aware.

Nobody will get in trouble, it will just be information for the SLO incase their are patterns formings etc. Also, if you want your kid to receive a "stern" yet fair warning, they are the guys for the job.

[###w-m###]

Sorry, the SLO's are Police Officers.

[sleepyj]

this boy goes to same school as my son . the boy and some other kids got caught smoking drugs in school toilet . they got away with it . MY SON WAS NOT WITH THEM . .

[sleepyj]

i live in a village and we have got good police man for village that i could chat to . but i cant have nothing coming back to my son .

[babydust]

good luck with everything anyway :)

[sleepyj]

thanks a lot kids are so stressfull .

[###w-m###]

Why can't you have the Police visiting your son at home?

I can assure you that if he was caught with even a half a spliff by a copper, he would be processed. That is the rather sad way, the police work nowadays. Anything to get a detection, and how easy is it than a noce little caution/reprimand for a 12 year old boy?

Nip it in the bud, but as stated not involving the supplier. Just a good ticking off to put the willies up him.

[babydust]

kids are a pain in the rectum thats why we love them so much lol

[Carakeel]

Whatever you do, please don't give your son too hard a time. He DID come and tell you about it, which is more than most kids would do. If you want him to keep being honest with you and telling you about what is going on in his life, you need to make sure he doesn't feel punished for doing so. You do need to remain hard with regards to your stance on the dangers of his smoking something he couldn't even identify and on drug taking in general. But rather than isolate him, sit down at his computer with him and research the dangers of drug taking. Without condemning him, tell him in a calm way why you are worried about him and what it would mean to you if something bad ever happened to him. Grounding him probably won't stop him hanging around with this boy again, but might make it more exciting to do so. Kids do often quite innocently get dragged into these situations with their friends, especially older ones, and that is a real problem. They love to experiment, are rarely aware of the dangers and are often under peer pressure. I would also get in touch (preferably by phone) with the SLO and ask them to contact this boy's parents. They may well be shocked to find out what their son is up to. You may not have to give the SLO your name, or you can ask that it not be mentioned, so this can be done anonymously to protect your son and your family. I wish you and your family well. :o)

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, i would just try and educate your son. You have to be firm, but fair. tell him that your disgusted that he has smoked and that you hope he wont do it again. Dont be too stern, as in future he wont tell you anything again, but make sure he knows its wrong.
Your right about the other guys making his life hell if you grassed them up. He is only young and probably just experimenting. My guess is he wont do it again for a long while.
If you know the boy, and he is approachable. Have a word with him (obviously not letting on that you know anything) and ask him if he knows anything about your son coming home 'ill'. Tell him your son wont tell you anything. The boy wont obviously tell you, but it will be enough to put him off pressuring your son in future.
Hope this helps...