bullies?

[cas23]

I posted a question yesterday and got a real bad response. The question I posted promted me to question the reasons for what I am doing and the reasons for what the other man is doing so I posted a picture and asked for an honest opinion, I got a lot of rude and abusive responses to this when I really did want an honest opinion of yes you are ok or noyou are noting special. This mornign I have read all the answers and to be honest I wouldn't have minded had you all said no, sorry, not my cup of tea, but you (most of you) were nasty about this and I probably feel 10 times more insecure now than I ever have!

[4getmenot]

and she just does it for sex and its not hurting anyone at the moment.

[Miss Inquiry]

Cas23 - you are upset for people being rude and nasty? You are sleeping with a married man AND cheating on your partner. I'm sorry to say it but in my book you are being quite nasty to.

I am glad you have had a look at yourself and your actions, but I think you need to look deeper than simply am I pretty? Anyone can be amazingly pretty, it's what is inside that makes wonderfu/kind/nice people and importantly it's how people act towards others too.

[PinkFizz]

Can we talk about something else please? Pretty please??

[Shells7]

I don't think it's right what Cas is doing, but I make a real effort not to judge other people, because I know I'm not perfect and I know that people make mistakes, especially when you are young and still trying to work out who you are. People do all sorts of things for all sorts of reasons and our mistakes are part of what make us who we are if we can learn from them. Anyway, it's a bit early for all this, I'm off to have a cuppa.

[4getmenot]

I'm suprised it has upset you though cas23 as you have no conscience I wouldnt have thought it would get to you so much. You just have to think these abers are just names and cyber people. Dont let them get to you.

[PinkFizz]

Hey ho,Im off for a cup of tea and a slice of cake......

[redcrx]

so can we expect a "i posted about ABers being nasty and they were all nasty to me" thread to start soon?

It sounds like loads went on when i wasnt here, WM and cement mixers ???

Hi Pink, hows your foot?? Weve got another round of lurgy here following the slapped cheek of last week lol. Bloody hand, foot and mouth now. Cant imagine where hes picking all these viruses up from.

[nat_84]

If u post ur pic on this site (or any other site )u have to accept that you might get criticism - if you're gonna post a pic AND tell everyone you're seeing a married man for sex and expecting some kind of sympathy - then you obviously aren't that bright..

[Pippa68]

Way to go, nat! you are about the same age as cas, and I am reasonable enough to know that age doesn't equal maturity...and that goes both ways!

My 16 year old daughter knows darned well that dating or sleeping with a married guy or even another girls boyfriend is wrong. It isn't rocket science is it?

It is all very well to speak about not being judgemental, but when someone asks you the Q you have to give your honest opinion. I did, and did it without insulting cas or calling her names. But even that was wrong!

[redcrx]

what would really help is if, when posting a question, people would put the answers they want after the question.

That way we wouldnt waste time answering wrongly and the questioner would feel good and know that we all agree with what they are doing. :)

I may be onto something here, perhaps a trip to suggestions is required.

[Eric Git]

Hey Redcrx, you could get a job working for the political parties, rewriting their opinion polls!

[Eric Git]

Oh I forgot, Redcrs. I posted aquestion about tomorrow, with that in mind if you answer would you please only answer using pink and fluufy examples, thank you.

[Eric Git]

Sorry a slip of the finger, I meant Redcrx.

[nat_84]

Thanks Pippa :o)

But as you mentioned it's not exactly rocket science! I think it dates back to Primary School that you shouldn't go near someone elses boyfriend (and in Primary School having a boyfriend didnt even necessarily mean you had to talk to them!)

[redcrx]

lol eric git,

shall pop by and see if i can answer in a lovely fluffy way :)

[admarlow]

Hi cas23 - for what its worth...
1) - If you post your picture on the internet and ask people for their opinion then you will get it, and no it wount always be constructive.
2) - It does seem a bit narcissistic to do this and maybe you were expecting 50 blokes to post things like ''i want to sh@g you. (although its not fair for me to say this as I don't know you.)
3) - You haven't see the pictures of the people who said you are ugly so I wouldn't worry!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Octavius]

The thing is, and I do remain suspicious of this whole thread(s), that Cas' original question was loaded (or at least a confused paradox). The question asserted that she didn't feel any guilt and couldn't understand why.

Some took time and effort and tried to provide some moral issues on the basis of monogamy and respect for the male/female unit, others said she was just having fun so why not. WM's contributions ( I must admit) made me laugh. Sorry. Slap my thigh Ed.

So going back to the original question Cas - why SHOULD you feel guilty? If you an answer that, then you have your own answer. And in response to your picture post, as attractive as you think you are, you are really really really not my type.

Now I have spent far to much time and effort on this tat, So I am off for a lie down and a G&T.

[redcrx]

Ice and a slice octavius? Isnt it a bit early for that? lol

Oh i wish id seen the post now, sounds as if WM was in good form :)

[admarlow]

I hate it when I miss a vintage WM post!!

BTW

Hi Nat xxx

[Octavius]

Never too early Red.

You didn't miss much it was almost as tedious as subsequent threads, just think of bodily fluids from a couple of men, where they go, and then think cement mixers.

Talking of mixers.......