Calling all men...

[Zammo]

What would impress you on a first date? And what would really put you off?

[vehelpfulguy]

What would put me off:

Too much make up, trout lips, false boobs, tattoos, lip (or other) piercing, smoking, chewing gum, saying "yeh but, no but", wearing "name" brands (gucci etc) indicating a shallow person.

Impress:

Intelligent conversation, nice smile, well dressed

[smurfchops]

vehelpfulguy - but you wouldn't go on first date with a man who looks like that in the first place then, would you ?? Only joking .....

For me, a man who smokes, smells, dirty hair, old jeans, has bad breath, farts, speaks too loud, swears, lets me pay even when I offer, dirty fingernails, scratches his bits, leers at other women. I am sure there are more but can't think of them. Sure its not you vehelpful guy :)

[Trojanfarce]

Impress: Turned up, Having a pulse, brought beer
Off Put: Purple blotches, Muffin tops, allergy to chilli sauce
:-)

[Trillipse]

enormous breasts, probably.

[kepla]

An actual, real, honest answer ? Okay ! Basically its all the stuff that mother nature designed men to like about women. Healthy-looking - nice long clean hair, bright shiny eyes, ssmooth clear skin, good teeth and nails, and finally - and very important - a feminine figure. Men are programmed to be attracted to these things, we just can't help it. It also helps that if you have to wear a little make-up, you keep it subtle and not obvious. There is NOTHING attractive about brightly-coloured eye-lids or hair which stinks of chemicals. Dress in a way which brings out the best in you and try to be fashionable without just following the crowd. In conversation try to be positive and lively. Your not expected to blindly agree with everything he says but don't put him down either. Be the challenge he is happy to accept. - keep it interesting. Most certainly avoid paying other people lots of attention and ignoring your date - - - that will be taken as a sign of rejection.

[polly1]

whats wrong with short hair kepla?

[Backdrifter]

polly1 - well said! I love the short hair. Short hair RULES. I also love a straight, boyish figure rather than the curves that, along with long hair, I'm "programmed" to like. But we're straying too far into general attractiveness rather than what impresses on a first date. Or are they the same thing anyway?

Being bright and chatty, showing interest in me, sounding intelligent, being interested in a range of things, not having dressed up much, are all impressive. I love being surprised - her saying something or relating an anecdote that's completely unexpected and throws me - oh man, I love that. And contrary to an earlier reply, a discreet tattoo and a piercing or two are good, good, good. Put offs would I suppose by definition be the opposites of some of those - being quiet and a shy little flower, making me feel it's hard work to keep conversation going (a MAJOR turnoff for me) or just going on about herself the whole time, looking like she's spent hours getting ready, not being curious about things, showing too much interest in showbiz gossip rubbish - all bad signs for me.

Lighting up between courses - yeccch. Using the phrases "retail therapy" and "it's just a bit of fun" during conversation and peppering her speech with "like" this and "like" that and "I'm like, yeah, and she's like, no". Which should be made criminal offences, in my view.

[cascarelli]

yep mdoo98, no harm in her starting off as she means to continue is there?

[mrrobbo15]

most off putting is a miserable so-n-so......

blokes do try but they aint a perfect 10....(im a nine n half btw lol)

impresses...being late (cuz just wen you think shes not arriving....she does !!)
.......and NOT offering to go halves (im old fashioned i guess)

[andy-hughes]

What would impress - nicely turned out, has made an effort. Obviously enjoying herself. Being at ease.

Put me off - anything that suggests she doesn;t bother - chipped nails, dirty hair or clothes. Sulking. Boring conversation.

[robbo82]

If anything, I'd rather a girl wore no make-up and jeans than too much make-up and ridiculously trashy and branded clothes. Ultimately, they should just be themselves. If they're not, you'll find out pretty soon anyway. Just be friendly, smiley, tactile (but not ******) and relaxed.