How to be forgiven?

Rubyrose | 02:44 Thu 27th Apr 2006 | Body & Soul

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When you have a row with someone you care about lot and you say something you didn't mean and you've said sorry, but they still won't speak to you, what should you do then? Should you accept their silence? Wallow in your own guilt? Or keep apologising until then speak to you? The comment wasn't that bad... but it shouldn't have been said.

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Blyss

I think i would go ahead and say the "im sorry" twice if it wasnt "listened" by that I would leave it .

Rubyrose

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I've apologised about 10 times! :o(

spk

ahh Ruby thats a shame. I would accept their silence for a little while and let them calm down. They know you are sorry if you have said it that much, maybe just need a bit of space and time to calm down and realise it wasnt meant. Dont feel blue x

Rubyrose

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Thanks Blyss and Spk. :o(

I do feel blue though. I hate it when me and this person aren't speaking. It drives me mad coz they are a good mate.

spk

I totally understand its really upsetting when somebody is unhappy with you. We all are human though and everyone makes mistakes sometimes. Im sure they will realise soon and you can be pals again. X

spk

PS. Ruby- we all think you are smashing ! :-))

Rubyrose

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I hate not speaking to mates thats why I hardly ever row with my friends. I can't remember the last time I had a major row with a mate! But this is bugging me. I hope they forgive me as I do care about them alot. :o(

Thanks Spk... I don't feel smashing right now.. Lol.. I feel like smashing something though. :oP

sense4all

I would offer a sincere apology, but then you have to give the other person space to process their own thoughts regarding the matter, and let them come round on their own.

Rubyrose

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Thats the bit that kills me.. the waiting. Being stuck in limbo! :o(

spk

how about some sort of peace offering like flowers or just a card or an email Ruby? And then I would leave it at that x

Rubyrose

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We are speaking.. Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay.. But I am on egg shells. :o).. Fingers crossed.

spk

hurrah hurrah ! Ah im glad panic over. Nothing worse than that feeling x