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//I get it, Dave's ashes are still in the bottom of my wardrobe, he wanted them to go in my grave but the they are just in the way//
Got be honest Rowen, dont think I could cope/deal with having ashes stored in my home.
(My afore mentioned sister has her late husbands ashes in a plant pot outside)
I find it a bit goulish but understand that others may gain a comfort.
We are all different.
Just for myself, when a loved one if deceased, they are gone. Photos and memories suffice for me.
(And reiterate...for me.) others are different!