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15 and in love
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Thanks for those answers. LadyP thats the conclusion i have come to - keep telling him how it could end up - especially if he is doing this in school, i mean he could be excluded or lose his place at college - all manner of things could affect the rest of his life.
Its just hard being a parent isnt it!! Im now at the revenge part of my journey but totally agree that what the girl gets up to is none of my business except when it interferes with my family. Have now found out that she has told people her and my son had sex in my house when i was out - totally a fabrication but how cunning on her part. It means that if one of her other blokes gets her pregnant she can claim my son is the dad (and i 100% know theyve so far not had sex) as shes told people i have an open house!! Now thats overstepping as far as im concerned. Now shes bringing it to my door and im well angry - more than i can put into words here. My youngest is at the same school as are nieces and nephews and all this has gone around as gossip! I just want her to realise what she is doing to peoples reputations. In my work i cannot afford for people to think i allow my underage son to have sex in my house - even IM not having any so why would i let him lol!!
the school was definitely in the wrong for not telling you! You should have very stern words with the head person.
As for the slapper your son is unfortunately tangled up with - just make sure he has all the "safe sex" information plus a HUGE supply of condoms and spermicide. Tell him if he wants to carry around with easy girls than he is going to have to face the reality that he will most likely get an STI - genital warts are VERY EASY to get and they don't look pretty. Not to mention chlamydia and gonorrhea. And since the girl obviously does not have any respect for herself, he should also be prepared to be a part of the 30% of British teenagers who get abortions each year.
Then smile.
Although I only have girls and my oldest is onle 7 I go with what metagirl says. My Brother is 8 years younger than me (so I had more of any idea when he was 15) and my Mum used to buy his condoms for him to make sure he always has plenty. She would say she would rather it was going on and she knew about it as it was going to happen anyway.
He is about 28 now settled down with a lovely baby.
To be blunt, telling a 15-year old boy to effectively decline a *******, or any other sexual favour is like telling a crack addict in Camden that robbery is wrong.
Your views are typical of a single mother who clearly has no clue about male sex drive or sexuality.
To paraphrase Carl Jung, people don't differentiate between "right" and "wrong", they distinguish between what "makes sense" and what doesn't "make sense".
Whoooaaa Andy008 - you were doing so well there, right until your second paragraph...
Acorn is only asking advice and doesn't need you having a pop at her to add to her woes of dealing with a delicate situation!
I clearly remember the raging hormones of being a teenager - being sternly warded off the local 15yr old slapper would have positively encouraged me! This is a tricky one, but maybe you need to sit and have a bit of a "we're both adults" type chat with him - even though he's not an adult as such, he probably thinks he is, as do the majority of boys of his age.
My mum always used to do a bit of hypothetical role reversal with me, asking me to describe how I would feel if I was her in the position of 'responsible parent' dealing with this....a bit of self analysis that youve been a d!ckhead never did anyone any harm.
Bear in mind of course that you are probably dealing with his now inflated ego that he is indeed 'a player' thinking he knows all the ways of the world! And don't forget that one day you will be able to laugh about this, hopefully at his expense... ;-)
Wow Andy008, hit a nerve did it??Whilst any comments are welcomed I do object to being labeled a typical single mother. Are you sure there is such a thing? AND if i didnt understand his sexual urges as well as i do (being a very typical MOTHER) i would have been straight down the police station demanding the slapper be hung drawn and quartered!!
In fact it is the fact that what he is doing undermines the act of love - i mean his first forays into making love to someone is done in a school corridor with the cleaner in the room next door. She has told him that if they dont 'have it off' she will tell people he is impotent but if they are caught she will say he forced her. Now that is not the type of loving relationship i want my son involved in and as a mum i will make it my mission to see that he realises this. Its nothing to do with not understanding his urges, its about protecting as best one can those we love. He has to make his own mistakes but why should i sit back and allow this girl to ruin his life with her lies.
And what exactly makes sense about possibly being excluded from school right on top of exams? Would you say he is differentiating between making sense and not?? Thanks again for the comments but yours you can keep.
i am not a mother but sympathise with your situation. My concern which i dont think has been mentioned but if your son is having s�x with someone aged 15 he is breaking the law and could be prosecuted could he not? I know this girl seems to be 'experienced' but whose to say that she or her parents might not just decide to contact the police one day. Sorry if I have misunderstood something and not trying to cause concern but just felt there could be a problem here.