When Is The Right Time To Get Engaged?

[anthro-nerd]

My man and I have been together for almost 3 years, we live together, we have a shared bank account and a lovely litte dog. I am ready to marry my best friend (to clarify, that's him!) but he still isn't quite there yet, which of course, is fine. We're both in our mid/late 20's.

I was just curious as to what other people thought... 2 years / 3 years / 5 years / 10 years... how long were you with your spouse before they popped the question?

[sapelesam]

3 days, but I don't think that will help you.

[anthro-nerd]

3 days!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Mamyalynne]

There was no waiting for me either.

If your wonderful man isn't ready yet then put it aside for a while till the time is right for both of you.

Just continue being happy.x

[Sqad]

Don't bother to get married.....if you are happy, then why spoil it?

[dannyk13]

When you both decide that it is time to get married.In my case it was 6 months.

[dannyk13]

Sqad, that's a bit cynical

[anthro-nerd]

Right you are Mamya, he is very wonderful :-) just curious as to how long others were together before they tied the knot.

Some of my closest friends got engaged after 2 years, and another after 10. So there's really no time limit :-)

[NoMercy]

We met and married within 20 months but by the time we married we lived together, had joint finances and a baby on the way. We are both 41 years old - age is a big factor in something like this.

At your age just worry about saving hard for your future and not blowing all your money on a fancy engagement ring and wedding.

[Helewel]

Eleven years. Didn't want to rush into things...!

[FrillyPancake]

10 years after we met we got engaged, and another 2 after that we got married. There's no rhyme nor reason to any of our decisions to get wed apart from it felt right. You will know when the time is right. I always knew I would marry him in an instant, however him, like your man, was a little more hesitant in making the decision to which was fine with me.
I expect a little patience goes a long way and mine certainly did. 8 years married this year and he is...still...my best friend lol ;-)

[Mamyalynne]

Three weeks after we met he asked me to marry him, that was right for us.

[Sqad]

danny........why is it cynical? Almost half of marriages end in divorce.....not a good track record.
I see no need for marriage and if given the chance, i wouldn't marry.

[jackthehat]

24 years....

[dannyk13]

Sqad, so what you are saying is don't get married in case it ends in divorce,

[Bazile]

You been living in sin for three years ?

[Barmaid]

It's what time is right for you both.

I had been with my OH almost a year when he popped the question. It is "right" for us.

On the other hand, I was with my first husband for 9 years before we got hitched and that was a blummin disaster!

[mccfluff]

personally, i think marriage is an outdated concept, you live together there is no difference apart from legalities so why bother?

[Sqad]

danny....I am just giving my opinion as to when a relationship is working well, why get married. The divorce rate is just an example of marriage success today, other factors are the amount of money "lashed out" on weddings when it could be better spent.
One can have one's babies out of wedlock now.....so turning the question to you danny.........why get married?

[woofgang]

We got engaged three years after we started dating and married 8 months after that. We were married for almost 50 years