Brain Tumours

[2sp_]

I was visiting my Auntie who is dying from brain tumours. She said something very odd, that she never really took to Mr P and wasn't sure of him at all.

Now she can only have met him once or twice, and he is partially deaf so can appear quite aloof at times especially to people that don't know him.

Please tell me that this comment could have been caused by the tumours. I can't honestly see why should she would not like him.

I'm just looking for reassurance. It's massively important to me that she likes him and approves of him.

She did get a bit confused during other conversations too.

[woofgang]

Yes, yes it easily could be caused by the tumours.

[2sp_]

I know I sound a bit daft asking...

[sunny-dave]

Brain tumours can often cause exactly the same confusion and false memories as Dementia - with similar hurt and unhappiness.

It's the illness talking, not the real person that she was.

Dave xx

[2sp_]

Thank you both.

I just can't bear the idea of her going to her grave not liking the most important man in my life.

[woofgang]

No its okay. I used to deal with people who had various kinds of brain damage and such out of the blue comments aren't unusual and can cause great pain and worry to relatives and loved ones. Its not the first time I have answered a similar question

[2sp_]

Thank you woof, I feel quite teary thinking about it all.

[2sp_]

(Don't worry, I will pull myself together!)

[Sqad]

Psychiatry is not one of my strengths, but I do not think that it matters one jot as to the cause of dying, but it is commonplace for a degree of loss of aware meant or indeed dementia to precede death.

I think that all one can say is that these comments are the ram longs of a dying woman.

[Sqad]

"Ramblings"

[2sp_]

Thank you Sqad. I was trying to think what ram longs were, thought it must be a medical term!

[Sqad]

LOL...I think that they are a type of trousers that a male sheep wears

[Mamyalynne]

From experience when my husband was dying (Brain Tumours) some quite odd and hurtful things were said, try not to take it to heart.

[2sp_]

Thank you Mamya, I will pull myself together and get it all in perspective.

I can't begin to understand how she must feel (in her lucid moments) and what her husband and children are going through.

Will stop feeling sorry for myself.

[Mamyalynne]

It's hard I know. xxx

[sunny-dave]

[[[ hugs ]]]

Dxx

[anneasquith]

awe, you have hit the nail on the head, '' she did get a bit confused during other conversations '',,,,,,,,,,,nothing personal re mr. p. im sure in different circumstances she would like your man :)

[Old_Geezer]

Whilst, of course, it could be confusion due to the tumour, I'd suggest you probably want to ask yourself why it is so important to you that two folk you know, think each other is wonderful. Folk are allowed opinions the differ from what you consider ideal. IMO, ought not bother you really.

[woofgang]

No OG, at such a time navel gazing is not a good idea.

[Peter Pedant]

almost certainly caused by the tumours I would have thought


[My mother accused her surgeon of being in the CIA and trying to kill her.....only partially true we thought] sorry levity perhaps not reqd.

[Peter Pedant]

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I have been confused... all my family would say of it was that I wasnt really there. I have no memory of that one.