I wouldn't be suprised if your family are my husbands family, we try to avoid his mum and his mums side of the family where possible,They consist of people you really wouldn't want to meet or spend time with. I come from a bit of a well to do family and couldn't believe it when i first met some of my husbands family. He is the only one out of his family to go to uni, buy a house and try to better himself (and probably his only family member not to smoke). I hate it when we have to go see my mother in law as well as we come out smelling like an ashtray too so i can sympathize, especially when my mother in law holds my little girl on her knee whilst smoking and blows it in her face, i want to scream. They are all a bunch of thieving scrongers and i hate it when they make out like this country owes them, when they have done nothing except take from the tax payer and sit on their arses.