normal?

[albaqwerty]

OH and I married for ages, sons pals stay (occasionally) at their pals, plenty of their pals are either at their mums or dads houses and tonight a pal wants to stay here because his dad has a male friend staying over and that makes him feel uncomfortable. surely his dad would put his son's feelings first? ok wrong section to put this in I know but .....

[dot.haukes]

Maybe the Dad has but his son first and it is the son who is the one not accepting his father's choices and so wants to make a point

[pinktwink]

well there are too many things to be considered age of don is he nearly an adult or young. Is there a reason for the boys uncomfortableness, has the dads friend done or said anything to upset him. Does the boy have relatives he could stay with????

[jojojojoanne]

perhaps the son should mention it to his father

[caththecrazy]

how old is his son?

[albaqwerty]

the boy in question is 17, has mentioned to his dad that he is uncomfy with another guy staying and says the guy who is staying hasn't gone anywhere near him. I think the youngster is not comfortable with his dad's sexuality.

[stokemaveric]

so the next question should be......is there any vaseline in the bathroom???? lol

[b00bs]

its one night, the father is`nt putting his son up for adoption,far to many parents put their life on hold (which is right to an extent) for the sake of their kids what harm can it it do the child to spend a night away from dad, he will probably enjoy the sleep over at a friends house,

[pinktwink]

what about his mum etc. At 17 the boy is nearly an adult and the difficulties are more about him. If his dad has reared his son to 17 he deserves a life too and the son will need to accept that. Besides if the son was gay he would want his dad to accept him it works both ways

[jojojojoanne]

with the father actually having a son perhaps it stems from the fathers ambiguity over sexuality

[albaqwerty]

stokie behave lol

no not for one night btw

mother and him live with each other , so for the one night Dad has son, Dad should put his life on hold

[caththecrazy]

One night only? The dad should make more of an effort but I'd say that if the dad had a lady staying over but at 17 the son is hardly a young child and he'll have to learn to accept things.

[stokemaveric]

maybe these guys just want to get pi""ed,have a chat and then 1 wants to crash out at his mates without having to get home...why does sex/homosexuality have to come into the equasion???....you know a lads night out....just like the ladies do.....

[jackthehat]

And what if it's not convenient for the 'other' chap to reschedule his visit ?

[b00bs]

ambiguity over sexuality is more a woman thing we tend to hide it from our kids.men tend to be more open, i would imagine the father have done so much for the boy he is now resentful of his father having a life.of his own.

[rabbitygirl]

I share pink's view. Could be dad has been concentrating on being a dad all these years and denying his true sexuality.

I'm sure the son is uncomfortable about all this but his dad has to live his own life and at 17 he will just have to accept it.

Mates crash at each others houses. In my experience it was because he was too sloshed to make it to his own house..... It's good he has a friend to help out. I wonder where mum is as well...

[jojojojoanne]

ambiguous in the sense could homosexual men even have a relationship with a women? i think that is classed as bisexuality.

[jackthehat]

jojojoanne - Not if he had a relationship with a woman before he 'declared' himself to be homosexual.

[devilspawn]

Not a good situation:

If the dads friend is purely a friend - no problem

If the dads friend is more than a friend then he needs to be introduced slowly and properly rather than staying overnight before being introduced to the kid

I am all for adults doing as they please and getting on with their lives, but as the kid only stays every now and then, surely that time should be spent with the kid and only with the kid until another partner has slowly been introduced (be it of the same sex or opposite sex)

[jojojojoanne]

jack the hat: a heterosexual person would just have relationships with the opposite sex, a homosexual would have relationships with their own sex, what would you class someone who has children and is now 'gay' they cant be defined as heterosexual or homosexual?

[pinktwink]

devilspawn he is not a child he is 17!!!!