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I know I shouldn't be doing a FAO but didn't want to highjack excelsior's post..
Not too bad at the moment anne, all quiet on the western front.. He was 2 weeks off the wagon and that was sheer hell. Even when things have been bad before he's never been really nasty, especially to me. He's got no money left until this weekend then.. we'll see. I'm just so scared that he'll fit again and this time it'll be fatal. Thank you for asking about me it means so I really don't have anyone to talk to who's not really angry with him.
Not too bad at the moment anne, all quiet on the western front.. He was 2 weeks off the wagon and that was sheer hell. Even when things have been bad before he's never been really nasty, especially to me. He's got no money left until this weekend then.. we'll see. I'm just so scared that he'll fit again and this time it'll be fatal. Thank you for asking about me it means so I really don't have anyone to talk to who's not really angry with him.
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Hey, masma, there are plenty of us around to chat too and who aren't angry with him - or you. I do think your daughter/his sis needs bringing in on the act, pointing out that anger, on her part, is not going to do anything positive but he needs the riot act. Could she be there with you perhaps when he is in the house? Or at least get to you or phone the police if there is the slightest hint o aggression...perhaps a coded word between you two, so he doesn't know that you have triggered that you need help.
good idea that DT..but above all you have to take care of yourself masma..if he can't conform to an acceptable level of behaviour in your home and you feel unsafe..then he will HAVE to make other arrangements..make this clear to him..i wish you good luck , remember to come here when you feel stressed, we are not judgemental in any way and are only too pleased to help in any way we can xxxx
masma, I was so sad to hear the news about another set back, especially as last time was so dreadful for you all, I know everyone will be saying ' wash your hands of him ' but as you have always said he is your son, id be concerned about the violence though, is this going to be the pattern for the rest of his/your life I wonder ? I know you are in a terrible position and assume your family are saying enough is enough, I wonder if it is ? Im so sorry that you and o have to live in this situation, im more than happy to listen to you anytime you want to rant.and I do think of you often, take care anne.
Hi masma. It is so hard worrying about someone else. Sorry if you've already said, but how much outside help and support are you all getting? Sometimes people react better to people they don't know so well. I imagine he's fully aware of how difficult it is for you- but is struggling to control it. I wish all your family all the best xx
Thank you all so much for your kindness I really don't worry about violence from him but the verbal is just as hurtful, also I'd rather not get his sister confronting him the last thing I need is unpleasentness between them. My extended family know he drinks but nothing else. Mr M will be 70 on Sunday and all we wanted was a peaceful retirement.
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