Any advice?

[CAJ1]

I have recently started talking to my Dad via email after 10 years of not speaking to him. He is a bit of an idiot and I don't really want anything to do with him, I've given him a few chances and he's screwed it up every time.

How do I tell him that I don't want a relationship with him? I'm one of those people who if I tell him, I know I will feel bad and guilty. He's really not good for my health though and I need him out of my life with minimal fuss!

Any advice?

[CAJ1]

I am currently typing out an email to him telling him for the time being I do not want contact with him because I feel that he is continually dragging me down with his attitude to life and comments and I feel it is having a detrimental affect on my health. Its more detailed than that but thats the main point. I will see what he says. I'm guessing if he wants to have me in his life he will offer to make an effort to change, if not and he tells me to have a nive life then he was never worth all this thought and I'm better off without him!

[chelle7272]

Good luck CAJ, let us know what happens.

[CAJ1]

Thanks chelle and thanks all for the advice, it made things a bit clearer! I will let you know how it goes :)

[trt]

Caj1

I find it hard to believe that he has never met his wife to be, and bringing her and the 4 daughters to the UK.

How did he get them Visas, its not easy if they have never met, are you sure hes not winding you up?

[bednobs]

i doubt he will do either if you've just told him you don't want him to contact you!

[Lindylou]

Change your email address. When all his emails remain unanswered he should get the idea. And leave Facebook alone for a while. Good Luck!

[weas]

Hi I really do feel , firstly ,always emotionally put your self first, be who you want to be ,and only allow people in you want ,childern do not ask to born there are a gift, who should be treasured, and you lose the right to demands to your child when you cross the line in there childhood. emotionally putting youself first, you are saying ,i cannot cope with you at the moment ,please give me time, to look after myself.
good luck

[CAJ1]

Thats a good point trt, I never thought about visas. He is deadly serious, I don't think he would make it up. I wonder though how he is going to fly everyone over without knowing much about them!

Thats true bednobs, never thought of that! Maybe I'll re-word it...

I don't know about doing that Lindylou, I want him to know how I feel and why. I don't want him thinking I'm as bad as him.

Hi weas, that's what my cousin said. I do need to look after myself, I had a hard time coming to terms with the fact my mum doesn't want to know me. I fought to get back on top and I don't want him dragging me back down.