P.M.S. - it 'aint what it used to be.

[Bbbananas]

Apparently the widest use of PMS now is not pre-menstrual syndrome, but Post-Modern Spinster. Unmarried (by choice), Children optional, financially & otherwise independent.
Yup - I guess I am a good example of a PMS.
Any more of us out there (I suspect quite a few!)
And do you fellas find us PMSsssss a threat or a good thing?

[Bbbananas]

People can be married but still lonely....
And people can be that badly burned (but burns too, in time, heal).

[crazycathy2]

Squad you're right one of the ladies at work said that to me today. She said she was really lonely last night so I asked where her hubby was and she said sat next to me ont he settee - very odd.

She said he migth as well not be there. I told her to join us on here

[RufusDufus]

Salla i get you now!

Sqad,i was going to lol at that but thats so true,when it gets like that either its time to get out the marriage,or develop other personalities to keep you company!

[sqad617]

Get out of the marriage.......expensive.......and you may cut your nose off to spite your face.

Depending on your sex, get a mistress or a lover.

illicitencounters.com

See previous thread re. dating sites.

[paraffin]

salla:

Nobody's saying relationships are easy - no way! It always takes two to tango.

Everybody's relationship goes stale at some time or other, some people even try some of the "forbidden fruit" of unfaithfulness. It all depends on what kind of relationship suits you best. We're all different - horses for courses and all that.

A partnership needs to be not only a two-way mutual attraction, it also requires staying power through the bad as well as the good times.

And yes, especially when that initial animal-like lust is but a distant memory. It ain't all physical, just more gentle and less frequent shall we say!

[Bbbananas]

Excuse me paraffin for this - but are you saying if your husband aims a shotgun at your head, almost strangles you, staabs your foot with a fork, stubs a fag out on your hand, kicks you in the ribs & cracks 2 of them, all but rapes you one night when just drunk enough to still do it, runs you off the road into a dyke, gives you a split lip & punches you in the face (to name but a few incidents) that you still have to have "staying power".

Sorry - but CR@P - I'm outta there >>>>>>>>>>>
And I was. Eventually.
Staying power my arse - if I'd have had any more staying power the bloke may well have killed me.

[sqad617]

salla...take it easy.

parafin....if there is mutual respect there is no problem, but we are dealing with a situation, where the respect may be unilateral or no repect at all.

[Bbbananas]

Soz - but I hate it being inferred that, because of a failed marriage (or two!) I have not had "staying power" or I've run off once the going got tough.

Paraffin - I know you mean no offence, but you said a post or two back that 'Life is what you make it' - It sure is. I decided to make mine safe again.

[paraffin]

salla:

Of course I'm not saying that!

But you must admit that none of that totally unacceptable and reprehensible behaviour can be forseen as you're walking up the aisle, can it? Otherwise you obviously WOULD be, to use your words, "outa there". That goes without saying.

And when marriages/partnerships fail, there are often multitudes of reasons why, extreme violence being but one example. No, there's no way either my missus or I would have lasted 32 years had violence played any part.

I've had lots of experience of "partnership problems" in a former employment I was in and I realise how violent some relationships are. However, there is no simple solution to any relationship breakdown, that's a fact.

I would never condone violence as a means of "sorting" any relationship problems and have nothing but contempt for those who do.

[Bbbananas]

I've calmed down!
x

[RufusDufus]

Excuse me paraffin for this - but are you saying if your husband aims a shotgun at your head, almost strangles you, staabs your foot with a fork, stubs a fag out on your hand, kicks you in the ribs & cracks 2 of them, all but rapes you one night when just drunk enough to still do it, runs you off the road into a dyke, gives you a split lip & punches you in the face (to name but a few incidents) that you still have to have "staying power".



Jesus salla its a wonder that you havent became a lesbian man hating serial killer!

[Bbbananas]

Not at all. I know this behaviour is, thankfully, fairly rare. I don't hate men at all - I don't even hate my ex for doing all this - we now have, believe it or not, a very amicable relationship - he's sorted out his problems & what problems he does still have, are not mine too anymore.

He went through a (quite prolonged) mid-life crisis, which only got sorted once I went to the police & the court.

There are good & bad men in this world, as there are women. I haven't let my experiences colour my views on the male of the species.

[paraffin]

Rufus:

Please read my 15:22 post.

[naughtyboy]

My dad used to say when you first go out with someone you can love them so much you could eat them then after a while you wished you had!
He also said that us blokes spend the first nine months of our lives trying to get out of it and the rest of our lives trying to get back into it!
Kinda sums things up really.......

[RufusDufus]

Parraffin,ive read your 3.22 post now,thanks for the exciting read and i hope in the future you can bring more of your rivetting posts to my attention.

[Bbbananas]

naughty boy - naughty boy.
you summed it up well.

[crazycathy2]

Naughty Boy your dad is so right

[Bbbananas]

My mum was (nearly) right when she told me that boys are made of slugs & snails & puppy dog's tails....!