selfish or not?

[eric1361]

the girl that i was with for 4 plus yrs ended it, it was easier for her to end things instead of try to work them out. she would do something and it was ok, but if i did the same thing i would be dumped. the only way i got to see her was to go to her house, she wouldnt come to mine. we went where ever when she was ready and at her pace or she didnt go. we only had sex when she was turn on, if i couldnt turn her on by just kissing then there was no sex. most of the time sex was no touching, no looking, or it was over. if i said i loved her or text her she didnt and most times wouldnt reply, because she dont have to. if shes late it doesnt matter, she need not let anyone know, but if im late and dont call then all hell breaks out. even when i give 110% shell give 30 and say thats enough that i should be thankful just to have her. if i go to bed and have to get up for work in a couple hrs and her kids are loud as hell and i say something then she says its not that bad and if i dont like it then go home. its like she put me down alot and then would say shes joking, i really think she was trying to lower my esteem. i get dumped every 3 or 4 months then after i have no contact after a couple weeks she appears, this time seems differant, i dont think shell be back but better yet i dont want her back. why do people like her be so selfish or rude, why cant they see what they have and be grateful. they always bitch about cant find a good man and when they do they treat them bad. can they help it? her past relationships were aweful, what are these kind of people looking for? i dont care what it is, and truely her fault, she will ture it around so im the one saying sorry. im at a week now with no contact, her kids will text me cussing me out, of course my fault. but im holding strong and moving on.

[Lynsy]

omg

[eric1361]

omg what? please tell me your true thoughts.

[bednobs]

seriously, people like her do it because people like you put up with it (for four years!!!!!!)

[eric1361]

thank you, i take full blame. i stayed, your right. so what happeneds to their ego when i grow some balls and walk out and never be heard from again? i know she thinks after so long all she has to do is call and i go running, but there is a end and its now. it does stop here, thank u god.

[bednobs]

it's not your fault she behaves like this but you encourage her to do it by putting up with it. Re:ego she ill just move onto someone else like you

[eric1361]

can u tell me why a person would have to table mirrors on the inn table right by where she sits to watch tv. shes not stuck on her self and thanks shes gods gift, shes rude, selfish, controlling, bossy. but i can see her watch tv then look at herself, this is from the time she gets home till bedtime. she says she dont see herself and that shes looking at god i dont know. but its everyday. ill catch her looking at differant angles and poses. im lost

[R1Geezer]

She does it becuase you let her, don't be a doormat mate, dump the b1tch for good. There's plenty of others out there who'll treat you better.

[chanel5]

You are better off without her, Eric. She will destroy your self esteem and leave you feeling worthless. You might miss her for a while, but you should keep telling yourself that you are worth better than being treated the way she was treating you. I agree with bedknobs that she only treated you that way because you let her do it, but everybody has their turning point, and this is yours. You should get on with your life without her, but don't think that you have wasted the four years, because your relationship with this woman has been a big learning experience for you. Next time you will be able to recognise someone who has no respect for you, and hopefully you will not be so ready to put up with it. You have the rest of your life to find someone who will treat you better, because all of us deserve to have basic respect. I hope that you find someone who will make you happy and will treat you right, because as you say, it is hard to find a good man.
I hope happiness comes along for you.