My wife says she has strong feelings for someone else but doesn't want to lose me. She is not prepared to stop communicating with this guy but for over a year she has maintained she doesn't want to lose me. Sometimes she says 'I want to spend the rest of my life with you but I could easily live without you'. I worked at trying to put things right and she talks like I'm on trial. She says it's me that has to change and not her. I'm a nice guy and good with our kids. What am I to make of it? What is it she really wants?