What would you choose - love or a good career??

CAJ1 | 13:03 Thu 17th Apr 2008 | Relationships & Dating

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I live in Ireland and have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half, I love him to pieces and he treats me so well. He is in the RAF and is being posted to England for a few years. He has asked if I want to go with him. I applied to get in the police and have been going to tests and interviews for the last year. I am now at the end and am nearly in (although they could still turn me down) If I go to England I would stay in an admin job and not get paid half as much as if I got in the police. I am going to leave the police career to move to England with him, I believe I am making the right decision as I can see us having a future. Do you think I am making the right decision choosing love over a well paid career? What would you do?

could it be post natal and what should i do?

does anyone understand men ?

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CAJ1

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Hi lil,

I sent you an email. We both have good men now so we have to stick by them - they're few and far between! xx

banjosister

HeyCAJ1,

I married a soldier and followed him here, there and everywhere. Suprisingly he cheated on a regular basis.I mainly worked part time cleaning which worked well with the children's schooling. We split up. I am now 43 and at the bottom of the 'career ladder'. Admitedly I still have another 20 years (if they don't keep putting retirement age up!) to work.

He has full pension, his own house, another career. I am in social housing and struggling.

I know what I'd do now if I could go back.

BB xx

Mr k

I think in time you will regret not staying and going in the force..
Would he give his career up for you ? I doubt it...
I have like most gone with my heart only to be let down...
Good luck on what ever you decide.

mirela

i'd chose love...
just never regret whatever decision you made doesnt matter what happen in the future, thats all, go for it.

CAJ1

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Banjosister - sorry to hear that. He's a good man though, I really can't see him cheating on me (he can't lie at all!). I could build a career in the UK and I'm thinking in a few years if we're married and I have kids it would be best if he had the better career as I might want to work part time and spend time with my kids.

Mr K: He offered to give up his job for me to give the police a good go. One of us had to give way and I decided to for the reasons above and also becuase I might not have even got in and then neither of us would have won!

x

andrea81

CAJ1

I've been with my hubby for 7 years now and we met while he was in the Army. He got out 2 years ago, but in the meantime, we had to have a long distance relationship as I stayed in Wales where he was in Germany!

So your choices are... Go with him

o'r

stay where you are and try a long distance relationship! It doesn't work for all, but it did for us and we're a very ahppy couple now!

To be honest.... I think you answered your own question when you said that you couldn't live without him!

Good luck, chick, not easy, but i think you'll do whats right for you! ;0)

CAJ1

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I really don't think I could do a long distance relationship as I would miss him too much! Mind you it would get me out of doing his washing lol! I think I've made my mind up and am going to go to England with him and apply for the police there. I will keep you all up to date with how it goes. Thanks for all the help! xx

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