Q for the Ladies!!!!.

[Rtaxron]

Would you be offended if you were whistled at going past a building site or being called Love or Sweetie by the bar staff in a pub? Whats is happening to this Country?

[brionon]

When I come to England for a few days I love it when the woman in the shop calls me Love. Years ago I met another Englishman living abroad and I said 'Hallo mate'' and he had tears in his eyes. ''Oh'' he said ''It's been so long that someone called me Mate.''

[andrea81]

I�ve seen it happen that men whistled at a woman who was overweight, just to see if she turned around, and then said�... "Not you love!"

Not saying that all men are like that but though that is quite nasty!

About being called Luv... don't mind as long as it isn't in a patronising way!

[ludwig]

'Not you love' - that's terribly sexist - a simple 'Not you' would have sufficed.

[andrea81]

ludwig - bless her, she went bright red and I bet she felt terrible afterwards! ;-(

[josie48]

It's a lot of fuss over nothing as far as Im concerned. Wolf whistling and being called names like "love,pet etc" have been going on for years yet now its deemed wrong? Speaking for myself here,when I was younger I used to get wolf whistes a plenty and loved it..lol Even in my latter years I don't mind being called "Love,pet,m,dear" as I do the same. Now if it was groping,a different matter altogether!

[tigerlily11]

Same her Red.
When I was younger and living in Aldershot it was and every day thing to be whistled at by lorry loads of passing soldiers.
But then when I was younger women took it all in their stride. These days you can't look at some women without them screaming sexual harrasment.

[cazzz1975]

I have lived in the midlands all my life ludwig and I have never ever heard a man call another man "duck" !!

[Le Chat]

To me 'love' is just a regular Northern word. However, I do cringe to the core when I walk past a building site and the men shout stuff. I am not a shy person at all but I would do a large detour to avoid this situation. It doesn't flatter me at all that they may want to shag me!

[cazzz1975]

I tend to assume that they are making fun of me because Im a bit difficult on the eye

[JonnyBoy12]

Well, not having had the pleasure of actually seeing all you lovely AB ladies in the flesh I do not know what you all look like. I am sure if I saw you all I would want to wolf-whistle you, but for the feminists who do not know this is a compliment.

I do think this is a gender thing, and do not mind being called love, duck or pet by anyone of the opposite sex, but not my own gender (Male). Have heard of men calling men love, but would feel threatened by this. Most men on the bus I drive just call me Mate, so have got used to this. I do not like being called Sir, as feel this is far too formal for general use. If I were staying in a 5 star hotel would feel a bit better about this.

I recall a time when 2 girls half my age quite seriously called out "You look sexy in that jacket" This made my day, so if this is sexual harrassment I think I can handle it.

[NikkiB]

Once during a cold snap I was having some hot coffee on a freezing town centre bench with my boyfriend and nearby was a workman in a hole doing some kind of cabling work. He wasn't that engrossed in his job; he was more interested in ogling every female who passed by, sometimes making comments. Just watching him wound me up pretty quickly and then the following happened.
A perfectly presentable, plumpish woman aged around 40 approached, oblivious to the workman. Up popped the workman's head as he craned to get a good look at her. (basically deciding whether or not to treat her to a pervy comment or offend her with an insulting one) It was at this point that she rearranged her scarf and threw a piece across the lower half of her face, presumably to keep out the cold air.
The workman, who seconds ago was so anxious to assess her, shouted out: "Thanks".



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[ludwig]

cazzzzzzzzzz - maybe it's just a derbyshire thing then but trust me it's a fact.