selling your soul

[reception]

I sold my soul to the devil 30 years ago ha ha when I agreed to marry someone I don,t know. after many years of abuse and tourture by this man I deceided not to talk to him but still lived with him for my childern's sake so that they could have a roof over their head and a secure home.... after 30 years I am still with this man liveing in the same house but I have not spoken to him for 15 years. I live for my childern who are now grown up. It was all worth it. My kids are educated smart and very clevor my girl is now a top lawer and my son ( who got in to little bit of trouble with his girlffriend once only) is working for the government and me I am still me... I have my sad moments and my very happy moments. IT WAS ALL WORTH SELLING YOUR SOUL TO THE DEVIL. BTY the devil still is crule and evil, one day I will leave him but not untill I am sure that every thing is secure

[redcrx]

17th october, you said then youd sell the house, that you werent happy in an arranged marriage http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Family/Question 469396.html
in September you were having an affair as you had no man in your life http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Family/Family-L ife/Question458043.html and were happy to use him as your children had no fatherly figure in their life, erm what about thier dad who lives with them?
In august you were very unhappy too and were advised to seek help and to leave this man http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Body-and-Soul/R elationships-and-Dating/Question447153.html

Dont keep asking, just go to a solicitor and seek proper advice! then get out and live a life!

[reception]

Drisgirl I will make my own life soon. I have done what I had to I will live a free and happy life very very soon. All you guys have given me so much strenght I wish youall happy Christmas.

[redcrx]

heres hoping that the new year brings you a new life. One that doesnt involve him in any way.

[Drisgirl]

O dear -this is going to appear harsh but please be assured thats not the spirit its intended.

After reading your previous threads-courtesy of redcrx - what you need is a massive kick up the arse and a reality check.

Be grateful that you are here and are blessed with seeing your children realising their dreams and growing up- a lot of people wont see that materialise-through death.

Finally stop moaning and bloody do something-you have a lot to be thankful for instead of wallowing in this self-pity.Just leave the loser -simple!!!!

Have a happy life -please- and do something with it -you are a very lucky woman -but you dont know it x

[Scarlett]

He won't leave you because he is a bully. He has the power over you. You may not speak to him, but do you keep the house clean? Do you cook for him? Why would he want to leave this set up? He probably has a lot of repressed guilt for years of abuse to you and the kids, and realises that nobody else will want him. You are clearly a lovely person. Go to citizens advice bureau and ask them for advice on leaving him- the house, the money etc and where you both stand. He cannot burn the house down- if he does, you can send him to jail for arson. But do tell the CAB about his threats, and preferably the police if you can, and then if he does attempt anything stupid, you will already have them on your side.
Leave him- he does not deserve to have your company. His threats are just that- threats. He sounds like a very weak and nasty man.

[Whoever]

Reception - do please now pluck up your courage and move on. As we grow older, the years pass so quickly that before you know it, unless you take action now, you will be an old lady still living in silence with this man and you will be looking at each other wondering who will be the first to die. And all the valuable years you still have ahead of you will have been totally lost and wasted. You have done your job as far as your children are concerned. See a solicitor in the New Year, start putting things in train for a divorce. You say you have "Won the War". You haven't yet and you won't have done until you are living apart from him, with your financial affairs split and settled, and are able to live your life away from his shadow. I wish you every courage in your next steps. Once you have moved on, I am sure you will feel much happier. You cannot live for your childen. They have moved on now. So must you.

[luckyman]

ur not really strong in my view..ur have shown weakness in staying with this man for so long!!! u used him for money,thats the bottom line!!!!! why didnt u stand on ur own to feet and get out yrs ago no matter wot the consequences,if he was that abusive u woldnt of even wanted ur kids growing up in the same home,after all they would of felt the hate between you two and it wudnt of been good as we all know to bring kids up in that atmosphere...seems to me u kept ur kids in this house with this horrible man and that was wrong!!!!! ur weak and u used this man for money!!!!!!!!!