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[4getmenot]

Ok this question is probably more to doc spock but I wondered if you found out you best mate was gay would this change your friendship

[4getmenot]

Someone I know is homophobic well alot of people are where I live, but I have heard that his brother is gay and I've always wondered if he'd change his opinion in any way

[WaldoMcFroog]

Only if for some peculiar reason he stopped liking all the things we have in common that make us friends in the first place.

[Rubyrose]

Friends are friends for reasons and sexuality isn't one of them. If one of my friends announced he/she was gay, it wouldn't make a difference to me in the slightest. My friends are my friends because I love them and their company and they are nice people. Their sexual preference wouldn't change who they were to me!

[Surreylass]

It did slightly between me and a female friend of mine. she came out as a lesbian a few years back. It turned out that she had fancied me also for some while and i had to think back to the times i crashed at her house, in her bed as girls do. it kinda turned my stomach

i am so not homophobic at all but she just conducted herself in a 'in my face' type of way after she said her 3 words of i am gay.

We would still stop and talk in the street but i dont go around with her much anymore. i did try and went to social events with her new crowd but i couldnt really feel at ease.

But then again i have a male friend who came out as gay and it doesnt bother me at all.

[4getmenot]

What like the barbies you used to play with together waldo. lol :-)

[4getmenot]

surreylass, I think it is easier for a girl to have a male mate be gay and it not change than a bloke to have a bloke mate and they become gay

[Rubyrose]

Surreylass- I think if she fancied you then it does change things a bit but no more than it would if you had a male friend who fancied you but you weren't attracted to him in the slightest. I think that would make me feel just as uneasy. If I think about the male friends I have and times I have crashed at their houses and then if one of them said they liked me and I thought about it, it would make me feel very uneasy... but no more than if a female friend said it!

I don't think I have ever had a close friend who came out though... I think I have just met gay people and become their friends.

[Rubyrose]

Of course it is.... If have gay male friends and it doesn't bother me.. makes them more on my level if anything but I don't have any female gay friends. I know some.. but we don't hang about.

[WaldoMcFroog]

And what if we had? The point is that our friendship is based on having similar likes, hobbies, opinions, music etc not where the other sticks their knob in private.

If he suddenly wanted to see Kylie in concert then he'd be going alone, but only because I'd rather chew my eyes than listen to Kylie, if he wanted - as you would expect to be the case - to continue going to see the bands we both like, then nothing much would change.

[Octavius]

My best friend told me he that he is gay when we were in our final year at school. I had always suspected, but never assumed. He told me that he fancied me for years but knew I wasn�t interested and had no idea how he could tell me, without me running scared. I was quite surprised when he did actually tell me in the cold light of day.

I was comfortable with my own sexuality so it had no bearing on our friendship which in fact got better in the following years as we started going out more in London etc. I have been to my fair share of parties, wild orgies and gay nightclubs and met many nice and not so nice people of all persuasions. It�s a funny old world when there are people in it.

We are still very good friends, we are both married now and went to each others weddings. Our partners get on well with each other, and we have plenty of social get-togethers.

I would guess that anyone who has an adverse reaction to a friend trusting them enough to reveal their true inner feelings, is either not a true friend or is uncomfortable with their own sexuality. But as I said, it�s a funny old world.

[raysparx1]

Hi 4get, A friend is a friend, it should go much deeper than a persons sexuality, I would think even more of them for admitting they were

[Doc Spock]

One of my friends bats for the other side but I enjoy his company. Don't want to hear about his private life though.

Answer to question is no but I would not discuss rights and wrongs with them.

[Doc Spock]

Hang on octavious, your friend is gay but is now married ???????????????

[4getmenot]

gays can get married you know doc