Loneliness

[Karmlady]

Been struggling with loneliness since broke up with bf couple of years ago and also especially over this Christmas period with 4 days off work but being ill so not seeing my mum on xmas day as planned. Be glad to go back to work tomorrow.
I need to find a way to make some friends but it's so hard. I'm 35, no children so can't meet people that way and hate all this communication via Internet. I yearn for real connections and real company, perhaps walk or drink in the pub.

[rowanwitch]

Thank you, I guess I have seen enough of the world to be careful but not so much as to be afraid.... Even in my 60s I still think I might have at least one more adventure in me.

[Karmlady]

Nextdoor seems quite invasive and risky to me. It's like Facebook but anyone can find you and your address.

[Xeronema]

Karmlady, you can call me Diz or Dizmo :) Just mentioning it as others may call me it, and you may wonder who they are talking to/about.

I'm not lonely now, not in that sense anyway. I guess in a way I'm lonely - I care for my partner and we both isolate ourselves. I met my partner online, we both DJ'd for the same online radio station. We started out as friends and then one day I decided, "What the hell, I'm catching the next train out to see you". Apart from being hospitalised the next day, I never left lol.

[rowanwitch]

I do some stuff on next door, but I have found most of the groups I belong to by picking up leaflets at local libraries and community centres. One group led to a other .... I could do spomething every day if I wanted now.

[MissTerious2]

60s is young Rowan if you are fit and healthy. I had lots of adventures when young and fit. So lots of good memories. But I never got to go to India which is sad!!

[Xeronema]

I think you have a beautiful personality, rowanwitch and I don't think you're unattractive either (even though I've never seen you). Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I personally look like a bag of hammers - my partner seems to think otherwise though.

[gness]

Sqad. It's not that we don't want your opinion. We just don't want to be lumped in with it. I joined a group because I wanted to learn archery, shooting, wall climbing, kayaking and other activities I'd never tried. The group didn't look at me thinking..."know why she joined". We had the same interest in trying and enthusiasm for something new.

[Karmlady]

Thats another nice happy story xero. How come u both isolate yourselves?

[gness]

Rowan isn't beautiful but "not by any means attractive" is far from true. When we met up Rowan was no less attractive than the rest of us ...well barring Tonyav of course....and we're okay... ;-)

Then spend some time with her and she leaves you thinking...wouldn't mind spending more time with this crazy woman. :-)

[Xeronema]

Circumstance I guess. My partner is bed bound 99% of the time and because I get too scared of leaving her on her own for very long. Years of fighting the system have left me relying on people online for friendship and a way to escape. I'm grateful I have her but at the same time I am sad that I don't have more friends. I guess I'm finding it hard to find any balance with anything at the moment. Kind of 1 step forward and 2 steps back.

[MissTerious2]

Thanks Diz. Goodness knows who triggered the invite. Neither of our two neighbours. They come by email. No-one in the Parish knows my email address. Hubby is the Parish chair so shares his email.very few people have my email address and the mails keep coming to me. I just ignore them now. Even the Church has only about 2 services a year. Nothing happens on the farm ! No pub, no school. The only people we see are delivery drivers and, apart from now, the postman. Dull init.

[Karmlady]

Sorry to hear that Xero. That's a difficult situation. AB must be a real support to you.

[Dizmo]

Hey, I just thought I'd reply to your thread on the off-chance that you still get emailed showing that people have replied (subscribed). I noticed you haven't been on this year yet and just wanted to say hello and see how you were doing?

Don't be a stranger :)

[Dizmo]

Ok, so I didn't think that would get put in the latest post feed, whoops. I thought they disappeared from being put in the latest post feed after 2 weeks, maybe it's a month. Sorry everyone!