So Disappointed

[fitdarren]

I could scream! I was supposed to meet an old friend for lunch today, not seen her for a while so I was really looking forward to it, but she's rung up and cancelled because she's got a bad headache, not the first time she's cancelled a meeting at short notice. I got up earlier than usual to take my dog for his walk before I went out and it was all a waste of time and now I have the whole day stretching ahead of me. I feel really down and she didn't suggest an alternative either. Maybe time to end the friendship?

[tiggerblue10]

I had a friend in a similar situation but I was the one who didn't want to meet her at the last minute. Back-story.....she was very critical of me and used to mock me in front of others. She never liked the way I did things and she was never willing to meet any of my other friends but I was always expected to mix with her other friends. She was basically a bully. We had a massive argument over going to another friends birthday meal and I couldn't take anymore of her behaviour so I didn't go to the meal. This was over 12 years ago and I haven't spoken to her since.

[Xeronema]

I don't think anyone could blame you for doing what you did, Tigger, I'd probably do the same. Also, I have replied to your last email :)

[Vagus]

I decided a few years ago I wasn’t going to put up with ‘friends’ whose company I really didn’t enjoy, and always came home wondering why I’d bothered.
So I stopped.
I have a much smaller circle of friends now, much smaller, but it was such a relief to get rid of those whose company wasn’t worth the effort. Maybe they felt the same about me but I don’t care, I don’t have enough years left in my life to waste it on those who just became a habit.

[Ellipsis]

"Oh, I'm so sorry to hear about your headache. Let's take a rain check. Until the next time ... kill them."

[Patsy33]

Tell her to arrange next meet up.

[rowanwitch]

Life's too short to fill it with people who don't make you feel good. ( Helping with real problems doesn't count... Friendship requires that to strengthen it so long as it's not a one way street)

[weecalf]

Here’s me I made an appointment to see a friend .So I phoned up to say I would not be able to attend as I wasn’t feeling great .They just said right so next time you need a doctor you can call somebody else .

[Meaghan27]

Could she have Social Anxiety? it can come on at any stage of life and its crippling. I went through a stage where I cancelled things at the last moment, or talked myself out of going places. The good friends understood and gave me space, don't write your friend off, ask your friend if she's 'ok'.