grave stones

[devilwoman]

if someones parents both died and they were buried together would the wording on the gravestone say loving parents of........

or loving mother of...
loving father of.... separaratly

its for a novel i'm writing

many thanks

[Chloud]

it would say it separately but usually it doesn't have the names of the people who were their children any way. It would just say 'loving mother' and 'loving father' along with husband/wife, grandmother/grandfather and whatever else they may want to be identified as. I think.

[curiouskatie]

It would be up to whoever commissioned the gravestone to be made. I would have thought it would be separate though.

I'd never have my name put on my parents gravestone though, there's something really creepy about seeing your own name on a tombstone!

[Octavius]

Depends if they are buried at the same time.

My fathers grave has something along the lines, loving husband, father, grandfather and brother.

There is space on it for my mother too as she wanted a double grave and it will probably say something similar.

Morbid, innit?

[Octavius]

Oh, just to add - agree with above that our names would not go on it, only the deceased and their relationship to the people left behind.

[RATTER15]

I started off my working career as a monumental mason inscribing gravestones. Depending on who died first as the other one would have been added at a later date.

The wording would go: In loving memory of ......................
Born.......................... Died ................................. (or just the age but not both)

Beloved wife/husband of ..........................

(and then the second inscription added later)

Also of

<name> Born...................... Died .................

Loving parents of................. would normally be added at this stage or it would imply that the second parent was not involved with the above children. Generally speaking people do not list the children but they do on occasions.

[wolf63]

when my mother died there was a family "tiff" over whether she could use the last space in the family grave. She did.

When my dad died he wanted to be cremated, we left his ashes in the urn and sat them on his armchair looking out of his favourite window until it was time to sell the house. We didn't know what to do with them after that, so we threw him in Loch Earn, across from the caravan Park. He would have liked it there. (Threw him - doesn't sound right).

My brother took the urn home because it "might come in handy". I couldn't think what to say to that. "Better tell M (his wife) just incase she puts the pickled beetroots in it though". I had to laugh, my dad would have have laughed too. My dad was old and ill and tired, he was ready to die. But I miss him loads - as much as I miss my cat!

[devilwoman]

thanks all, it was helpfull : 0)