Abortion

nailit | 20:00 Thu 01st Feb 2018 | ChatterBank

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Subject cropped up in a conversation today.
As a male, I'm never going to experience the (what I imagine to be) agony of making a decision to abort a child. Its all a bit un pc to say that I think its wrong but I'm trying to get a different perspective. A woman's perspective. I can understand a case for rape victims etc but I find it a difficult pill to swallow when its used as nothing more than a contraceptive.
My ex had 2 abortions (before meeting me) and I could never wrap my head around how she could be a loving mum to her child and yet could have terminated 2 previous pregnancies because she 'wasn't ready'
If you are ready to have unprotected sex, then you are surely ready to accept what follows?

As I said, as a male, I'm in no position to speak about women having abortions but I find it difficult to accept that women randomly terminate a life, particularly as females are seen as the life givers.

Am I on my own in this way of thinking?

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jennyjoan

What I can't understand - why can you not get an abortion in Northern Ireland when NI is part of Great Britain.

bednobs

i dont know
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-35980195

Islay

NI is not part of Gt Britain its part of the UK.
NI can and does makes its own laws as part of the devolved government

jno

NI is part of the United Kingdom, not of GB.

jim360

"As a male, I'm never going to experience the (what I imagine to be) agony of making a decision to abort a child."

What if the (would-be) father and mother come to the decision together? In such cases I'm sure the man can go through just as much emotional pain -- although the physical aspects of abortion are something I could never understand myself, of course.

ummmm

Just want to say....Pixie, it's not two signatures you need. You have to convince two doctors of your reasons. The GP being the first one.

hc4361

I know two men who have been devastated by their partners' decision to terminate a pregnancy in very different circumstances.
One was married (still is) and they discovered the baby had Down's Syndrome. She decided she could not possibly go through with the pregnancy whilst he very much believed the baby had a right to life especially as they had a very good standard of living. He had no say in the decision and still feels the loss.

The second was in a long term partnership and the contraception failed. He very much wanted the baby, she didn't.

jennyjoan

I know a lady whose marriage had split up and having two children - was so afraid of her mother - she had an abortion and had to go to England. This would be 45 years ago.

pixie374

You don't have to see a GP at all, ummm. You go to a hospital, speak to a nurse and they get the relevant signatures afterwards. I have gone along with several people and It's never been any more than that.

ummmm

I went to the GP. He didn't take much persuading because he knows me and my medical history. The doctor at the hospital took more persuading. I had to tell him things I hadn't shared with my closest friends. I don't think he would have denied me a termination he was just making sure I was making the right decision. He agreed with my decision and my reasons why.

I don't regret it but it was really early in the pregnancy. I don't think I could have done it at the 24 week limit.

pixie374

Just different experiences. I know in theory you are supposed to persuade them. In practice you turn up, say you aren't ready and sign a form. They do the rest.

ummmm

My experience....it was like a counselling session. Very difficult.

pixie374