Miserable People

[Curious79]

Hiya - I was talking to my friend at work about this miserable psychotic women who lives in my block of flats. She has no family or friends and seems to spend her existence shouting at people and generally sticking her nose in. We have a private car park and whenever visitors come and park, she comes down to shout and scream at them to move and has even thrown eggs at their cars!!! She seems to thrive on the confrontation. She is forever on the phone to the council to complain and has called the police on numerous occasions. My friend knows a woman similar to this at her local shops. There seems to be one in every neighbourhood!!! My friend and I assumed they must be like this because they are lonely. Do you think they were always like this hence they are lonely OR they were once popular and happy and they lost friends and family and became bitter and twisted??? Sorry for the long post!!!

[raysparx]

Curious, we all have history in our lives, all you can think is there but for the grace of god, we don't know what sort of life she has had, for all we know it might be very sad, I will tell you a little story,

Near waterloo Station in London, I was going home there were two lads beating up a wino,it made me angry, I gave them both a hiding, I picked the old boy up and he stank,in fact he reeked,I sat him down and got him a cup of tea from the all nighter, he spoke he was very educated, he was a very gentle man,in fact a stockbroker who had lost his whole family,then his self respect because without the family, why bother, he didn't bother and ended up a wreck, he thanked me and I went, I often wonder what happened to that old man, he was doing no harm, anyone of us could be that old boy, you may think I am making this up , that is up to you to decide, but think on, please think, take care, Ray

[andy-hughes]

There are a lot of people like this - you have to think that this lady probably has mental health issues, but no-one to take care of her, and ensure she takes medication, which would control her bahviour.

Why not ask your local Social Services to pay the lady a visit, and see if they can offer her some help?

[raysparx]

Well said pickle, hope you are keeping well, you handle your condition well,your answers are allways excellent as are andys, take care, son!!!!!

[Imp y Celyn]

we used to have an old lady who lived down our road, who always used to shout and scream at us. nothing physical in what she did but the shouting on street corners, and at us frightened the bejebees out us as children. our parents bought us up to be polite and ignore her as they told us they she had suffered from shell shock during the war, amongst other things no doubt. we followed our parents advice but it was sad now when i think about it. she really did have no one. some days when i was out shopping with my mum she would have a 'normal' day and i would be hiding behind my mums skirt whilst my mum had a pleasant conversation with her. she was in fact a very well spoken and lovely lady. she just scared us most of the time. my mum still lives in the same house and sadly i understand the old lady died and only a few people were at her funeral including my mum and dad.

[joko]

she could be having a bad menopause...

[WendyS]

Well. maybe if a few more of you tried to be friendly with her she might gradually become less miserable. Small gestures can make a great deal of difference. Perhaps if you knocked at her door occasionally with some old magazines you've finished reading and just said "I was going to throw them away but it seems a pity if somebody else would enjoy reading them first". or "I bought too many of these strawberries at the market. Can you share some of them with me to avoid wasting them etc. etc. "

People shrivel up emotionally when they're unloved and uncared for yet small gestures of friendship, even just a friendly "Hello, how are you. Is this heat getting you down? might make a big difference. Who knows, you might be the only human being who has stopped to speak to her for weeks.

Maybe she just needs an occupation to help her feel wanted and needed. If she's always looking out for visitors and strongers etc. why not start a Neighbourhood Watch scheme for your block of flats and appoint her the Coordinator? With her vigilance you might be the only block of flats that never gets burgled ! You might also in the process help her get some self esteem back.

[Lonnie]

Why don't you and your friend try to ber nice to her, possibly make friends, you never know, You just might see a different person..

Excellent post as usual Ray, knowing the sort of person you are, I believe you.

[raysparx]

Cheers Lonnie, hope you are well, he was such a sad and lonely,pathetic figure, life eh? kiss for that georgeous daughter of yours Lonnie, hope as well that the job front is on the up, take care, Ray