Love help!

[XDivaX]

Hi, I wrote a little while ago confused love wise! Basically since then I've finished it with my ex and I'm still seeing this new guy. Before I was slighty worried that he wasn't as interested in me as I am with him because although we talk and see each other alot he hardly ever makes the initial contact and texts me first. So far in the last week I've seen him 4 times. Normally we speak online or I text and he asks me to meet up with him. Stayed around his last night and 2 nights ago as well. He had laid table, made dinner, lit candles and put on some romantic music when I arrived. We feel alseep in each others arms and it was just perfect. So I'm thinkin thats a good sign and he does actually like me. I like him so much that I worry that he isn't into me as much as I like him and would love to know what his feelings are and whether he sees 'us' getting anymore serious. I'm scared that I'm going to get so involved and end up disappointed because he is just seeing this as a short-term thing. We have both come out of long-term relationships very recently. How do I approach the subject, I dont want to sound to desperate and scare him by asking just in case he is basically just seeing this as a 'bit of fun'. Any ideas? x

[angel-cake]

I seriously would not say anything yet. Just back away a bit and let him chase you. Honestly, guys like to think you are worth catching so DO NOT be so readily available.

He might say at the moment that he does not want something serious so let him fall for you and then it is highly likely that he will change his mind.

Has he actually said that it is just a bit of fun or are you just assuming that is what he thinks?

[XDivaX]

No he hasn't said that he just wants a bit of fun. I'll try backing off slightly and playing hard to get but I'm pretty rubbish at it cuz I'm so weak lol. Knowing my luck he will back off to thinking im not interested when its the complete opposite.

[angel-cake]

He won't. Men don't think like that. They like chasing after you.

How's it going anyway?

[XDivaX]

Ok so last few days I havent texted and when I've been online I havent messaged and his always messaged me first so yay. Yesterday we were messing about and I approached the subject about whether he likes me. He told me he fancies me and he isnt looking elsewhere. Spoke to him at like 2pm today and hadn't since but he texted me an hour ago saying good night. All good signs so I'm happy, lets hope it lasts x

[dancealot13]

I agree with Angel Cake, I don't think you should have anymore talk about how you feel for oneanother. Play it cool, especially because you both are just getting out of longer relationships. Behavior is everything, and remember "We always want what we CAN'T have", so play hard to get....but that doesn't necessarily mean don't call him, it means when you are around him flirt of course, but don't flirt tooo much. Play the physical part a little cooler. x