to feel loved/needed/secure
When I say 'dominant' I dont mean bully, control freak or scumbag.
My mates brother is in bits after his partner of several years dumped him. He's one of the gentlest blokes you could meet. But he has come across to me as a bit of doormat at times, his partner says she wants something and he made sure she had it, he worshiped her. But the kicker is, she has dumped him saying that she's fed up of him being a wimp!!! The guy only ever tried to please her.
I noticed a similar thing in my last relationship towards the end, the more I caved in to my partners demands, the less I got back in return (respect, sex, affection etc) until it all went pear shaped and we split.
So, what is it with ladies? Do you want a guy that wants to please you or a guy that will put put his foot down occasionally (or even often)?
And as I said, I dont mean dominant to mean bully.
I like a man that can occasionally make decisions, not necessarily putting his food down, but offering opinions and doing certain things without being prompted.
You have asked this before. Women are not all the same any more than men are.
Any man who tried to put his foot down with me would find himself short a leg!
I think no man is superior to a woman, compliments mean a lot, It does not bother me but I do tell my wife she look good when we go out for pie / peas, I also think a problem should be shared no matter what it is, marriage is a level partnership & no person should be dominant
My OH treats me very well but would never let me cross a line...Or the kids. If he raises his voice we all stop and listen, not because we're scared, but if something has bothered him for him to raise his voice....we need to hear it.