Monogamy Is Not Natural

[nailit]

Failing a philosophy section I shall have to face the wrath of Chatterbank…

But does anyone honestly believe that monogamy is natural?
At 52 yrs of age Ive *HAD* to come to the conclusion that humans just arnt meant to be monogamous. (either male or female) as much as we might like to think so...or wish!
Men still watch porn and women still like to read 50 Shades, etc.
Some might be monogamous in life but not in the head or emotions...

[maggiebee]

Carp

[Baldric]

Well I guess we agree with you.

[spathiphyllum]

You can only speak for yourself, some are, some aren’t

[naomi24]

//Men still watch porn and women still like to read 50 Shades, etc. //

My husband doesn't watch porn and I wouldn't read 50 Shades if you paid me. In my opinion if you have to find pleasure in what other people (fictional or not) are doing ... you're not doing it right. ;o)

[nailit]

//Carp//
Thanks for that quiet detailed answer.

//Well I guess we agree with you//
;-)

//You can only speak for yourself, some are, some aren’t//
Im speaking for myself.

//My husband doesn't watch porn//
You don't know that.

[Kromovaracun]

Living in cities and using flush toilets isn't natural either. That doesn't feature in to whether something is desirable or acceptable.

[kvalidir]

I tend to agree having been previously in an open relationship that monogamy is more social engineering than actual natural inclination, however I'm now in a monogamous relationship and that does feel natural. If Mr Kval wanders off and sows his oats elsewhere, it's not a deal breaker for me though especially as we are sometimes continents apart for months, as I'm not naturally jealous, as long as he doesn't love the other person. I would have the mother of all problems with that, but sex alone wouldn't be the thing to split us up or lessen what we have.
Neither porn nor 'erotic' literature to me has a bearing on monogamy or polygamy, that's just recreation and entirely irrelevant (and like Naomi there isn't enough money in the world to make me read 50 shades of utterly boring smut).

[Rockrose]

I disagree strongly, if my husband slept with another person it would be the end of our relationship. But I know that won’t happen because he takes his marriage vows seriously

[nailit]

Kval,
You are ahead of your years. I miss ur dad on here.
(He will remember me under a different nic.)

[nailit]

//Living in cities and using flush toilets isn't natural either//
Im not talking about artificial aids to living. Im talking about basic human behaviour.

[spathiphyllum]

I understand you’re speaking for your self, that i mean is, what you’ve said above isn’t fact, apart from your conusions, not that they’re true, but its a fact you’ve come to that conclusion

[Prudie]

I think it's neither natural nor unnatural. It's a lifestyle choice that's the right way for some and not others. I certainly believe some, of both sexes but predominately male, would find it impossible to be monogamous throughout their life.

[woofgang]

how basic do you want to get? Its also basic human behaviour to crap where you want to, beat people up if they have something you want and eat till you barf when the tribe kills an elephant.

[naomi24]

19.21. Yes, nailit, I do know that.

[aelmpvw]

must go to specsavers, thought this was a thread about wood

[spathiphyllum]

What is basic natural human behavioir?

Breathing, Sleeping, Eating, drinking, and polygamy

[wolf63]

There is a link between testicle size and monogamy
http://thesymbiont.blogspot.com/2010/05/are-humans-evolved-for-polygamy-or.html

[nailit]

//I certainly believe some, of both sexes but predominately male, would find it impossible to be monogamous throughout their life//

I would argue the opposite prudie.
Its invariably been the females that have cheated on their spouses among my family and friends. Indeed I buried one friend after his spouse cheated on him and he committed suicide.
Every member of my family (including my mother, both sisters, nieces etc) have all cheated on their spouses.
It would seem to me that females are far more likely to cheat than males. And there maybe biological reasons for that as well so its not about blame but about understanding how nature works.

[Tilly2]

You forgot excretion, Spath.

[Rockrose]

I think this train of thought is because you haven’t found your ‘bliss’ and don’t understand others that have