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Who Is Worse In This And Why?

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albertbucky | 13:28 Wed 19th May 2021 | Society & Culture
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There is this situation that I have spent a lot of time thinking about. I'm currently a senior in high school, and this happened last year (2020).
Someone in school was an overall ass to me. He would try to take and spread embarrassing photos of me, consistently poke jokes at me, touch my stuff, and overall disrespect me.
One photo of me he spread was of me looking at my crush's insta profile, and it was badly timed. My eyes were closed and mouth was open, and it looked like I was jerking off. He laughed and said the whole school saw it.
One time, I was on my laptop looking at a video called "how to get a gf". I minimized it to look at colleges. The kid came up to me, and in front of me, put his fingers on my keyboard, pulled up the video, laughed at me, and told some classmates in the same room what I was watching.
One day, I even felt very sad at one point (not depressed, just sad one morning due to a recent fight with my parents, not related to him), that I looked up suicide on my laptop. The kid took a pic of me doing so and tried to spread it around. He laughed and said a quarter of the grade saw it.
In June, I impersonated him on reddit and made some awful posts insulting some classmates, and sent that impersonation account to 7 people to try to get it to spread.
I also posted a pic of him on Reddit and pretending to be him, called him by his name, his state, and that he was a pervert.
Also in October, I told everybody how much of a jerk he was to me, and told everyone to stay away from him because of how awful he is. He is complaining that his reputation got ruined. Oh well.
I defamed him on both Reddit and Rawconfessions, giving out his first and last name, as well as saying lies about him bullying kids with Downs Syndrome and him being a pedophile and stuff like that. I also wrote about him being a rapist, sex offender, child molester, and other vulgar things. If you can imagine the worst things one can describe someone else, that was how I described him. I basically pretended to be him writing those things, and some of those things are popping up in the Google Search if you look up his first and last name. I first did that back in June of 2020, before doing some in October, and finally doing some in December.
The posts were taken down, as I was forced to by my parents. When you look the kid's name up on Google, they don't pop up. However, when you look his name up on other web browsers, like Microsoft Edge, Bing, Yahoo, Duckduckgo, among other search engines, both the title and content of those posts still appear.
I had just learned last week that the kid had to go to see a doctor because after I made those posts about him, he lost weight, had trouble sleeping, and lost his appetite.
I feel as though the kid is overreacting to my revenge, because nobody actually harassed him through those posts, and he was able to get into college just fine.
Many people are saying that I ruined the kid's life, however, if employers only look your name up on Google, then you should be fine.
Who was worse?

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Barmaid LOL! and here is me trying to play the good cop.....:-)
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Well I guess it makes sense. It's easy to judge me when you guys have never been bullied yourself.
Ach weel...
Who says we've never been bullied ourselves? I was bullied for a lot of my senior school life. It ended when one of my most frequent attackers met me for a fight after school and ended up with a bloody nose. They left me alone after that.

Man up. If someone is bullying you, attack back. Trying to destroy them online is a coward's way.
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That was exactly what I did. He humiliated me so I humiliated him right back.
Really, you had a fight with him and taught him a lesson like most most kids would've? No, you went online and fraudulently spread lies about him, quite possibly upsetting some of your classmates as you included them in your deceit, and attempted to depict the kid as the worst kind of pervert. You've crossed the line, broken laws and proven yourself to be a complete little scumbag. I hope he finds out it was you who did this, because you deserve to pay for this.
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The fake account I made of him that insulted some classmates only spread through SMS. That never went on the Internet. That just simply spread through classmates, and even then it was not that much.

The other stuff was all posted on the Internet, and those posts only included the ***'s name, not anyone else's.
Asking how you measure up to someone you despise might not be the best way to pursue becoming your ideal self, but hey, gotta start somewhere.
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Are you sure the kid isn't just overreacting to the internet posts? I mean, it's jus the internet after all. It's not irl. Shouldn't it just be pretty easy to simply ignore stuff online?
You should stop indulging in vindictive games, get off your behinds and get out and do some volunteering in the community for those worse off than you.
"Just the internet" available to anyone, anywhere with a device that can connect to the internet. Cyber bullies are the worst kind because they are anonymous. Do you have a school councillor? I think you should speak with someone you can trust to get the support you appear to need
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I mean, I don't understand why the kid is getting therapy over a couple of stupid posts that aren't even true. Why can't he just simply ignore it?
Depending on what rumours you spread about him (you said it was the worst thing we could imagine, and in all honesty, I can imagine some pretty horrible things one could be accused of), it's not a case of "him ignoring what was written", but a case of his friends and family suddenly having those doubts about him. Imagine waking up one morning and finding that those you care about are suddenly looking out of the corner of their eyes at you, wondering if you're capable of such things. Yeah, he may well need therapy inorder to have to deal with something like that.

The fact that you're acting this way suggests that you are not mature enough to face up to what you've done. Maybe you could do with seeing someone to help guide you through your obvious emotional issues too.
you both sound awful... I can't say I have much sympathy for him but your response was OTT and very damaging... you know it was wrong so don't do it again.
you would have been better off ignoring him really
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This was basically out on the internet. His friends and family who saw that know that those accusations were lies because they know that I had a grudge towards him. So I really don't understand why he's making such a big fuss.
You ask why he couldn't just ignore what you wrote. Well why on earth couldn't you ignore his actions rather than doing what you did?
Think how you’d have liked it if he’d done that to you. Oh how you would have laughed!
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Because his actions did actually do damage to me. He humiliated me and affected my relations with people (my crush and her friends). That's why.

The posts I wrote about him were just on the internet. His friends and family who read them already know that he is not those things, and that those things are lies. Literally nobody else in school has seen them.

That's why I couldn't just ignore what he did. But he can easily ignore crap on the Internet.
My honest opinion? You are a disgusting person at the moment. If you are lucky you will grow into a mature adult with some moral and human standards. But you will never do that if you simply feel sorry for yourself; you need to empathise with other people. I sincerely hope you do not have access to a firearm.

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