Miserable Men!

[DarceyK123]

I'm helping a friend find a new man!

She signed up to Plenty More Fish as a friend of ours found a nice man there.

But going through some of the potentials with her is an eye opener. Most of the men put a deadpan pic of themselves looking miserable with absolutely no write up about themselves, just their name, age and where they live.

Do they really think they will get a date?

Oh I'm so glad to be happily married.

[Mamyalynne]

Well, a sunnier disposition would help I agree.

[jno]

if they posted pictures making them look suspiciously like George Clooney, readers might suspect they were being conned.

[douglas9401]

They're just being honest in that, having been in a relationship already they know to ask permission before enjoying themselves or being happy.

In other words, they're house-broken and ready to be enslaved. :-)

[kvalidir]

I'd want to know their politics, what their interests were and what they did for a living tbh before I'd even think about meeting anyone, can't see the point of having nearly blank profiles. I've never used a dating site though so there might be a reason people leave profiles unfilled.

[Cloverjo]

Years ago, I placed an ad in a local newspaper hoping to meet a nice man. I opened the replies thinking I'd sort them into 'possible' and 'no way!' piles. None of them got into the 'possible' pile. I had to chuck them all away. It was quite saddening.

[-Talbot-]

politics...Homeless at the moment, don't trust any politician.

Interests... Football, arguing and flower arranging.

Job... Currently running a small united nations outfit trying to build some houses.


Any good?

[Tilly2]

You missed GSOH, Talbot...

[jim360]

Plenty of women are similar too. I suspect that lots of people on dating sites register, then forget about it.

[kvalidir]

Yeah I'd meet you for a coffee Talbot :)

I've fallen into all three of my relationships incidentally to just existing without really looking for anyone because of the attraction people sometimes have to each other, on paper or though a dating site not sure how it would have fared. The first one owned a house that was open to the public around here and was just the nicest man (46, Tory, hunting shooting fishing, landowner), the second one I was cast in a film with (26, Labour, dance, musical theatre, actor) and the present one I was introduced to by an industry friend, (49, Democrat-(he's American), art, motorbikes, animals, actor). On a dating site I'd probably have avoided them all like the plague.

[jim360]

Disappointed that the third one wasn't SNP/LibDem/UKIP, as you were otherwise well on your way to a full set of political affiliations :P

[kvalidir]

Well at least he's not a Republican :/

[jim360]

Well, nobody's perfect.

[Spicerack]

(26, Labour, dance, musical theatre, actor)

Bit of free unsolicited advice for you Kval. Think you might have been barking up the wrong tree there, love.

[Spicerack]

Mate came around my house the other day. Wanted help posting his bank details to 'dates' on one of these sites.
They claimed it was part of some security check.
Told him not to do it, obviously.

[kvalidir]

Funnily enough he's just been up to stay with me for the weekend with his new boyfriend Spicey, I assume that was what you meant :) x

[Spicerack]

Ho ho. Spicey hits the bulls-eye, again. ;-)

[NoMercy]

I'm happily married to a man I met on Plenty Of Fish.

It's quite funny really, because there are a lot of time wasters on there who couldn't give a jot whether you're compatible or have the same goals in life - they only care what you look like.

I got a message from my now husband and we chatted for a couple of days. Then I never heard from him again, until nearly 2 years later. I happened to be giving it another go and so did he. He'd bottled it the first time around and signed up again much later secretly hoping he could find me, and he did. However, I nearly didn't give him a second chance.

I did eventually and I'm glad I did. He's the most amazing person I know. I had to date a right bunch of self-obsessed wazzocks before finding the one, but it was all worth it in the end.

[CrapAtCryptics]

To help your friend be safer/surer about the guys she`s talking to tell her to download the Tin Eye image search app which will search the pic they send and see if its out there are someone else.

[Sqad]

Why does a woman go on Dating Sites? Cus she is desperate.
Why does a man go on Dating Sites? Cus he is bored at home.
Simples.

On the whole one picks the most appealing photograph ( probably 20 years old) and presents that face of the prospector.

[NoMercy]

Sqad, how judgemental, rude an inaccurate.

I met my husband when I was nearly 39. Most of my friends were settled by then and I had a better chance of meeting someone on the internet than on aisle 22 of Tesco. I was very specific in my profile about what I was looking for and would never have settled for anything less.

You really need to drag your attitude into the 21st century!