I would have said, "Oh dear, OH didn't tell me,I'll just have to pop back home for a short while to get some things for Johnny to play with or he will be bored all day". And I would have done just that, fuming all the time of course. He would have looked the wally, not you. I reckon you will have to accept him as he is with all his vagaries, or split up with all the recriminations. 11 p.m. - a bit late for Johnny to be up and out with the adults? (Fill in correct name for son)