Revenge

[Maypole]

Anyone ever acted purely out of revenge? Not the cheating partner type, other areas of life.....

Was it satisfying?

[Sachs]

Never felt the need for revenge. I think it's a very destructive trait. I think revenge shows an ugly side to a persons personality. I believe in the old saying, what goes around comes around.

[Maypole]

Hi Sachs
I used to think that. Now I think it may be a load of rubbish if you'll excuse my bluntness - there are far too many examples of people profiting quite nicely out of trampling all over other people for us to really believe in karma.

I do think its destructive and ugly though, which is why Id like to know if it goes away once satiated!!

[Postdog]

No you feel worse, or at least I did.

[Maypole]

come on postdog, you can tell us............ what did you do and why?

[Sachs]

Hi Maypole, Surely though, if a person can trample over people throughout their life, they would'nt earn respect from anyone & would'nt be thought much of as a person, so creating problems for themselves? I'd say that was my what goes around comes around theory.

[Maypole]

Nah I think they do it without being seen, so people dont know what theyre like. And if they have a dubious morality they wouldnt even feel bad about themselves, which sounds alot like getting away with it to me........

[hau kola]

Hmmmm, yes, i do get revenge on people without them ever knowing it was me. But its only happened a couple of times.Its a case of not letting people get away with s******g on you.And yes, very satisfying.

[Sachs]

I disagree Maypole. If the act of revenge comes easy to someone, I don't think you can hide that ugly trait in your everday persona. I think it would show in your treatment of people. People with that trait tend to be extremely petty.

[Maypole]

Sorry Sachs, I mean the original perpetrator can act unseen, so never does get his or her just desserts.

But on the subject of the revenger, doesnt the original act determine whether s/he is petty or not? For example if someone stole your stapler at work, devising a plan of revenge might be considered petty. But would you be petty if you sought revenge on someone who physically harmed one of your children?

I dont generally like using extremes like that to make a point, Im just trying to compare two ends of the spectrum to ask whether someone seeking revenge can only be judged in light of the original 'offence'....

[Sachs]

I think 'revenge' is 'revenge' no matter which end of the spectrum. Just my opinion.

[daniela31]

To even harbour any thoughts of revenge must mean you have some 'blackness' in your soul somewhere....

:-(

[Bbbananas]

at times, a lot of people may have had harboured thoughts of revenge - but not carried them through.

I don't think it necessarily means there is 'blackness in their soul' just to have thoughts along these lines. I would have thought, in certain circumstances, they were very natural.

[Bbbananas]

By that, I mean if someone had hurt a loved one, or done a very very nasty thing to you, it would only be natural, surely, to have thoughts of wanting to get back at them.

Most people don't though, and time heals.

[puddicat]

From experience when you feel the need for revenge you arent in a normal state of mind,its a awful feeling of anger and hurt!!!

[Bbbananas]

true puddicat, so true.

I have had thoughts of revenge over the years, but never carried them out, and now that time has indeed healed, glad I never did.

[daniela31]

I have never had these feelings, and I don't think I would either.
You probably do yourself more harm by feeling this way than the revenge you inflict on another person would do to them.
If they are that bad a person, then your revenge isn't going to bother them much, but you still have the bad feelings.

[Maypole]

I cant beleive there are no personal stories of revenge carried out out there - you lot are a very controlled bunch!

ANyway, just how much damage would a can of paint stripper do to a Porsche lol

[daniela31]

probably you locked up for malicious damage to property....

[Bbbananas]

as much as it did to my ex-boyfriend's BMW probably....

[Bbbananas]

no, I didn't really. ;-)