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Why is it that my MIL manages to pop in just as I'm about to go nuclear on the kids for fighting, screaming, not tidying up, playing in the bath, trying to flush socks down the toilet and other nonsense?
Now she thinks I can't cope with my kids.
And of course, not that she has left the little darlings are happily playing with no drama.
Now she thinks I can't cope with my kids.
And of course, not that she has left the little darlings are happily playing with no drama.
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That's what you get for allowing your MIL into the house
15:06 Fri 25th Apr 2014
I admit, she's never actually said it (stop being so level-headed, Ed!), but there have been quite a few comments over the years to lead me to believe that is what she thinks.
She lets my kids do whatever they like when they are with her, so she never says no to them. Of course she's never going to be on the receiving end of a tantrum!
She lets my kids do whatever they like when they are with her, so she never says no to them. Of course she's never going to be on the receiving end of a tantrum!
B00, I only have 2! Just seems like a little army of lunatics at times!
90% of the time they play well, are polite and happy little souls. They are just both at that age (2 and 4) where the wind will change direction and all hell breaks loose!
My MIL lives next door, so that can be a but suffocating at times. She is wonderful in so many ways, but can over-grandparent the kids. Mr P and I are totally on the same page parenting wise, but my MIL is polar opposite.
90% of the time they play well, are polite and happy little souls. They are just both at that age (2 and 4) where the wind will change direction and all hell breaks loose!
My MIL lives next door, so that can be a but suffocating at times. She is wonderful in so many ways, but can over-grandparent the kids. Mr P and I are totally on the same page parenting wise, but my MIL is polar opposite.
B00, I wouldn't be offended if you did!
They are just regular children, pushing the boundaries to see where Mum and Dad will stop them. The problem over the last couple of weeks is that Granny has been helping out looking after them due to me lambing (sheep, not personally). Their behaviour does escalate after any prolonged period with Granny.
I shouldn't be so ungrateful, she will look after them for me when I need to go sheeping.
I know I'm whining about nothing.
They are just regular children, pushing the boundaries to see where Mum and Dad will stop them. The problem over the last couple of weeks is that Granny has been helping out looking after them due to me lambing (sheep, not personally). Their behaviour does escalate after any prolonged period with Granny.
I shouldn't be so ungrateful, she will look after them for me when I need to go sheeping.
I know I'm whining about nothing.
I speak as grandad to five ranging in ages from eighteen down to 8 months.
Part of the reward for raising your own children is the opportunity to indulge theirs, which makes you god-on-earth, and is wonderful but ...
being a grandparent does not mean you overstep the boundaries and interfer with parental choices, even if they are not the way you did, and would do things.
I have views on the way my daughters raise their children, but I would not volunteer any such notions unless invited - advice not sought is merely interference.
Yes you can let grandchildren have a little leeway, but spoiling them rotten and making their parents the bad guys for bringing them back into line is not good, or fair grandparenting.
If you feel undermined, your husband should have a word with his mum, nicely,and just re-align the boundaries - that you say what goes, and you run your house how you like it - not to please anyone else.
Looking after grandchildren is a priveledge and a joy, it does not buy you carte blanche to cause more issues than solve, so ask your husband to - in Eastenders' parlance, 'ave a word!
Part of the reward for raising your own children is the opportunity to indulge theirs, which makes you god-on-earth, and is wonderful but ...
being a grandparent does not mean you overstep the boundaries and interfer with parental choices, even if they are not the way you did, and would do things.
I have views on the way my daughters raise their children, but I would not volunteer any such notions unless invited - advice not sought is merely interference.
Yes you can let grandchildren have a little leeway, but spoiling them rotten and making their parents the bad guys for bringing them back into line is not good, or fair grandparenting.
If you feel undermined, your husband should have a word with his mum, nicely,and just re-align the boundaries - that you say what goes, and you run your house how you like it - not to please anyone else.
Looking after grandchildren is a priveledge and a joy, it does not buy you carte blanche to cause more issues than solve, so ask your husband to - in Eastenders' parlance, 'ave a word!
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