Protecting Our Children

[B00]

Did anyone watch this last night?

I watched it open mouthed, incredulous from beginning to end. Please tell me these kind of people (the parents I mean) are not becoming the norm for our future generations?

[pastafreak]

I just want to make one comment-to B00 re packing her child off to a remote island so she is not in contact with any of this...
Which I fully understand.

But-the only way to teach our children compassion for others is to expose them to all of life's variations-and that includes the homeless,the druggies,the dregs....not in big,deliberate doses,mind you. Just so they understand that not all are fortunate,and some need help and consideration from the rest of us.

[ummmm]

Like I said....they have always existed. He's just gave them a platform....and we can just look at them and feel superior.

A friend of mine, lovely woman, got pregnant from a one night stand, she works, has a nice house...etc...He stuck by her....no need to go on JK!! It's not all doom and gloom.

One night stands have always happened.

When was prostitution invented? Morals haven't changed much really!!

[B00]

You may have a very valid point Pasta, and I do admire people who can and do choose to help and or work with people like this (apologies smart- but this is the kindest way I can think of to describe these specimens), It's just I don't want me or mine to be associated with them.

Yes I'm aware i sound horrible, blunt, cold and unfeeling- I just can't help it.

[ummmm]

B00 - did you feel sorry for them?

[B00]

The baby yes, the couple no.

[pusskin]

I watched the programme last night, and felt very sorry for the way that young couple lived their lives! How very very sad all round. So pleased that their baby is now in safe hands.

[ummmm]

I felt very sorry for them. Especially the fact that Marva seemed unable to look at people in the face. It just made me wonder what they've been through.

[missprim]

Sorry I haven't read everyone's post's on this but I did watch it last night and was going to ask this,

what's to stop this couple from having more children,

and will the people who adopt these children be told that the mother drank, smoked and took overdoses as this could affect the baby's health.

[ummmm]

They can't really stop them having more children. To do that you would need a court order which would make her be fitted with a coil or the implant. This usually only happens when there is mental health issues.

The adoptive parents will be given the history.

[Mamyalynne]

Oh yes MissPrim, prospective adoptive parnts are given quite a bit of information about the babies history.

On a more general note and having watched both programmes, the two couples featured were (indicative of many I feel ) somehow seeking love from a child, in a way desperate to find what they never had themselves. Sadly this does not make them capable of the care that new infant needs, on the whole it is tragic.

[ladybirder]

Am I alone in thinking that either one or both of them had mental health issues?

[missprim]

Thanks for that ummmm. The girl in question obviously has mental health issues but I hope that something can be done to stop her from having more children.
Lets hope the children that this couple have had don't suffer.

[ummmm]

I don't think they have. I'm sure they would have assessed at some point. They just appear to be a products of very bad parenting.

[Mamyalynne]

No I agree, the type of mental issues that come from emotional starvation and lack of love, can only lead to feelings of lack of self worth and the feeling that the universe is against you.

[missprim]

I agree mammyalyne it is tragic and very very sad.

[Mamyalynne]

Yes not mental illness as such but a turn of mind resulting from their past, one can only imagine how it feels and thank goodness I and some of us don't.

[ummmm]

I agree with that Mamy.

[ladybirder]

Marva does have mental issues. The black chap (the SW's superior?) says so near the start of the programme when he is summing up the couples problems.

[ummmm]

I missed that bit. That must have been when Jeremy Kyle started...lol

[hc4361]

I would be interested to know what happens to a child in the care system when he or she reaches the age where they are no longer the responsibility of foster carers or childrens homes.