what do I do?

[Jessicaxxx]

I was seeing a guy for about 2 months and all was well but then he became busy with work and I threw a strop and sent him a mail telling him that maybe we should stop seeing each other, he agreed but I didn't mean it, I was just having a bad day when I sent it.

When he agreed I was in shock and just said ok, that's fine! but I really do like him and want to see him again. All I've done today is cry and I know I seem desperate but I won't beg him, I've made my bed, I guess I'll have to lie in it.

Any advice on what I can do? I'm 27 and feel like a heartbroken schoolgirl.

[Ice.Maiden]

Why don't you get in touch and tell the guy what you've just said here? Say you were having a bad day, and wondered if he'd like to meet up again? It's not begging him - just showing that you still like him. If he says no - well, either it wasn't meant to be, or you'll have to learn to calm down when your man has to work. Best of luck.

[Jessicaxxx]

Thanks for replying. I guess I feel silly for sending him the mail in the first place and I don't want him thinking I'm a bunny boiler or anything, I just had really bad PMT and after a bad day of things going wrong and not having heard from him for a few days because he was busy just tipped me from being sensible to sensitive.

I may wait till weekend to text him that way I'll have a bit of dutch courage, not too much though!

[Ice.Maiden]

Awww.....if he's a decent guy, I'm sure he'll understand. I think anyone can get in a mood and go a bit over the top, but I've found it's best to just own up to how you're feeling, say sorry - and see if things can go on from there. x.

[Jessicaxxx]

Thanks again, he is a decent guy and I can't believe I've lost him, I think it's best I leave him for a few days as he's still busy with work (workaholic) so I'll try and catch him saturday. Thanks again.

[Ice.Maiden]

Bless! He's probably sitting there DYING to get in contact - just like you are!!! Let us know if all goes well. x.

[Jessicaxxx]

He's probably thrown himself into work and knowing men they don't really get 'attached' as much as women so he probably won't be, I've got onto a real downer today and all I've done is cry, I'm usually a strong woman but this has really got me. I'll let you know how it goes, thank you.

[jane1098]

can i just ask what was said (from him) when he agreed to break up.

[Ice.Maiden]

Sometimes, a workaholic comes as part of the parcel. I'm a year older than you, and my husband and I don't get a great deal of time together because of this, but I knew what to expect when I met him. It's just something that we get on with, but never the less, our social lives are full, and the lifestyle's second to none - so here's hoping for you. x.

[Jessicaxxx]

He just said it's probably for the best that we don't see each other as he's busy with work and can't really commit to seeing me.

[Jessicaxxx]

I really don't mind him being a workaholic but about 2 weeks ago he got promoted and now it's taking over him whereas I'm more laid back about work, I work to live not live to work and I guess the different work ethics are going against us.

I really do hope it works out for us, I'm missing him terribly and we really clicked even in such a short space of time.

[jane1098]

so would you agree to his working schedule and see him when possible. is that what you really want?
you sound like you really like him but i'm worried that if you don't get to see him that often you might get hurt.

[Ice.Maiden]

He's probably telling the truth - or your outburst might've put him off! However, it's worth a last try if you like him so much, but it could mean that you don't get to see him as often as you'd like. You could tell him that you appreciate this, and then just meet up as and when, with the hope that he reciprocates your feelings - but don't hang around waiting for him. Make sure that you get out with friends and family in between.

[Jessicaxxx]

I do really want to continue to see him but when he gets caught up in work he can forget about everything around him and even if I ring or text him he'll mean to reply but then just carry on with work and forget, I don't mind his work schedule, as I like my space too I just hate seeing him get stressed about it all and he really will make himself ill one day with it and it's not worth it.

I'll give him a few days like I said and then just text and see what happens. I'll need a few drinks after though just incase it's not what I want to hear!!

Thank you.

[jane1098]

hope it works out for you jessica.

[Ice.Maiden]

Me too. x.

[4getmenot]

You will I�m afraid, sometimes that�s what us women do just for reassurance. I used to be like that but have learnt that men are totally different to us so how are the meant to know. Just try to explain that you were having an off day and if he�s interested he will reply if not move on. Xx good luck and less of the mind games in the future. xx

[Jessicaxxx]

So do I jane but I'm not getting my hopes up, thank you.

I feel a bit better about it all, must be the old problem shared, problem halved thing!

[Jessicaxxx]

Thanks ice too and 4getmenot.

I don't do mind games and I really don't know what got into me when I sent the mail (except PMT and bad day) I've learnt that lesson the hard way though, I think I'll stay away from communicating when I next have PMT/bad day because I just say things without thinking and then beat myself up.

[LittleMissxx]

aw bless ya !!!! been reading the posts, and I too can be a sod with pmt. Me and my husband (only married 6 months, together one year) often get in a "thing" but i guess we learn to have a cool off period (for a few mins b4 it goes to far) cause we know we love each other etc. From what u describe he sounds a good one and maybe couldnt handle you dumping him so just agreed with it, and like the other ladies say, is probs missin u too but he has too much pride to text. Someone has too back down. I really hope when u text u get the answer u want hunny, u sound a good one too xx

[Jessicaxxx]

Just an update.

He called me last night and asked if we could meet up, we met up and all is back on track again, we had a long, long chat and decided that his work stress and my PMT had clashed and he didn't want a petty thing like that to finish what was a good thing so we're taking it day by day but we're both happy and glad we sorted it out!

Thank you for all your replies.