Child Contact Agreement

[snugglecuddle]

I want to setup a agreement with my ex-mother inlaw and my ex-partner so when he has contact with my 2 babies he abides by my wishes ie his new partner is not involved in the contact visits, Only problem is im not very good with words and i dont want it to sound wrong does anyone know of a website that has a blank letter i could use and just fill in the gaps xx

[daffy654]

I'm not sure you can do this legally unless the new partner is a danger to your children. What you are suggesting seems like no more than sour grapes that she has your ex and you don't.

[snugglecuddle]

Hi daffy654 i can understand why you think its sour grapes but it so isnt, if you have time look at some of my other posts in my profile and im sure it will become clear. His new girlfriend is also under investigation by social services regarding her lack of care to her own 2 children which is why i have concerns to her having contact around mine. I had a verbal agreement with him and his mum that she wouldnt be part of the contact visits but on one occassion she has been so i wanted to put it in writing so i have proof it was agreed to if its broken again xx

[NoMercy]

Well if she's got form for child neglect, I can't say I blame you. You are only protecting your children, afterall.

[daffy654]

I think you really need to seek legal advice then, if only from the C.A.B.
It would need to be a legally enforceable agreement and only a qualified solicitor would be able to advise if it were even possible.

[mollykins]

daffy my brothers ex did it, but the courts got rid of it when she became pregnant and it was awkward for her to go out on her own, plus the ex had sent her viscous texts about ehr and her baby she was having with my brother and also got my neice to give my brother gass when he went to pick her up and say 'here's some grass for the cow' which the ex had taught her to do, which the courts were furious about.

[mollykins]

ah but the child neglect thing is different . . . I don't blame you.

[daffy654]

I apologise for making a judgement of you by the way snugglecuddle. It was wrong of me to do that.

I still advise seeking the advice of a solicitor in this matter, your children's safety is paramount and if this woman has previous for neglect then she most definitely should not be around your children if you do not wish her to be.
Good luck.

[snugglecuddle]

daffy no worries i understand why you thought wot you did at first glance it does look like sour grapes and i would of probably thought the same reading it too. Im in process of seeking legall advise i just wanted to set it in place as a temporary measure because my babies are still wanting to see their nanny and dad they are almost 4 and other one is 5 and they keep asking to see them xx

[Debs28]

not sure it could be legally enforced even if everyone signed it. if you really are concerned then i agree with daffy, you should seek legal advice. If you think you qualify for legal aid, try www.communitylegalaid (sorry i dont know the actual address). you can ring them and they ring you back so it doesnt cost you heaps on the phone. they have solicitors who can offer advice and help you draw up documents. the only thing they dont do is come to a court with you should the need arise.

[beverleymot]

the court will still let him have access and probably with her present until something happens to your kids...and even then she will till be allowed to be present during visit... been through it all myself...been fighting it for 5 years in December.... had no joy so far except that my son refuses to see his dad now and its ruined the father/son relationship because of the new partner- but at least now my son doesnt want to see his dad i know he is at home safe