Hi Pamcakes1980.
Everyone's advice (more or less!) has been really good so far.
Whiffey, I think you're well out of order-I am sure she's aware that she has responsibility for her child, else why would she be asking for advice?
People are waaaay too quick to judge.
My friend's little girl (and also her partner!!) won't really eat veg, so I had suggested grating veg into pasta sauces really finely.
I know it must be difficult as a parent to find time to freshly prepare things, but not everything takes hours! And I find stuff made from scratch works out cheaper than ready-meals too.
Could you make vegetable burgers, with loads of ketchup and brown buns as a healthy alternative to mcdonalds? Maybe even make sweet potato or parsnip "fries" which kids tend to like because they are sweet and have a nice texture.
And yes, if you watch house of tiny tearaways you will see how Tanya manages to help as she is detached. How is the mood at food time? If you're more relaxed about presenting the food, and also, as has been said, your daughter has some involvement in geting her hands dirty, both of you may deal with it better.
I hope you find a solution.
Lisa x